To feel lonely and unmotivated

[sensuallettuce]

OH is at sea and has been since beg May - not contactable.

No one ever phones me as I think everyone thinks I'm ok :( Got engaged before OH went to sea and parents and sister haven't phoned or sent a card.

Friends phone when they need a friend and I'm always there.

Work can be isolating sometimes.

I have 3 DC and feel like a shit unmotivated parent ATM as was not invited anywhere for the jubilee weekend so did nothing (apart from taking them swimming). Friends down the road had a BBQ (was on FB) but I wasn't invited (never do as I have no partner so it's awkward).

What do I do to meet people who will remember I exist apart from when they have a crisis? :(

Hiya - you sound very down and I can completely sympathise. My husband is military.
I also never hear from anyone. A couple of people say they will visit but years later, they never have.
My husband is due to go away for 6 months soon and I do not drive. The weekends will be long, uneventful and lonely.
Days feel like groundhog day and the children always expect to go somewhere, see someone etc and that is not possible some days.

However, you are nearly there!! Take each day a day at a time...think of little things that would make that day bearable (hire a movie, ask a friend for coffee, park). Get on Fb (like others have suggested) and ask people round for a night in a couple of times. You have nearly made it and you have done a fantastic job!

Are there any hobby type things that you would like to take up to interest you in the evenings? Home crafts?

Hope you are ok .

Yes that's exactly it - it's groundhog day!! Feel sometimes like am treading water and wishing months of my life away until normal life can resume when he gets home. Was a single parent for years before with OH so not sure why I am feeling like such a loser now .

Thinking about it I have seen friends this week and I have got things planned - it's just the weekends that get me - esp when the weather is so bad - and it's like someone said on the single parent thread a few days ago sometimes when you do go out there is nothing to make you feel more lonely than being the only lone adult with your children watching other families have fun.

Feel guilty for not making more of an effort or the sake of the kids so I will endeavour to do better - Am lucky to have lovely kids and a lovely OH - just sometimes wish I lived on one of these cul-de-sacs where everyone is in and out of each others houses (no don't live in a forces area or know anyone lse with partner in forces) which I am sure would do my head in too!! . Thanks anyway I feel more positive today :)

Oh sensual - yes I understand. I am not on a camp as such although there are other local forces families. They keep themselves to themselves really. When the weather is miserable every hour seems to become two and it can be bloody hard to fill those hours alone!

I am glad you are feeling a little more positive today. When my husband goes out of area in a couple of months I will have to think of things locally/ cheap to do. I have already started to compile a list of new activities in my head.

I also struggle to sleep when he is away - do you? I dread that aspect of it. I will strive not to become a recluse - though it is very difficult to motivate and get out everyday.