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Original poster

About nap times and weddings?

33 replies

ZZZZNaptime · 09/06/2012 21:08

NC Due to obvious reasons.

I don't think I am BU about being so shocked at this but I need another opinion.

So, is it unreasonable to ask the bride and groom if they could arrange a place in the hotel for someone to take a nap at some point during the day?

This someone is a grown women.

It's not a medical reason.

But I'm not sure if it is a cultural thing. The women is from Asia. She would have been in the country around a week at the time of the wedding so I don't know if she will be jetlagged still?

It just seems very very odd to me!

The wedding is a small ceremony starting at 12 with a meal and then afternoon tea type reception finishing at 8 pm.

Am missing something? I'm genuinely perplexed by this!

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squeakytoy · 09/06/2012 21:10

could it be medical but personal and they dont wish to discuss the finer details of it perhaps? how old is the woman?

WorraLiberty · 09/06/2012 21:10

Lol I read that as 'The woman is from Asda' Grin

It's a hotel, can't she book a room herself for a couple of hours?

DamnBamboo · 09/06/2012 21:11

So they would need to hire a room for this lady?

ChaoticismyLife · 09/06/2012 21:11

I would have thought an adult was capable of making their own arrangements if necessary.

maddening · 09/06/2012 21:12

if I was going to a wedding and required a place to lie down I would probably book myself a room - or if I knew people well enough who were staying in the hotel while I wasn't I might see if I could borrow theirs for an hour or so -wouldn't ask the bride or groom to sort it out for me.

Sirzy · 09/06/2012 21:13

Why cant she just book herself a room? I think it is unreasonable to expect someone else to arrange a nap for her!

MsVestibule · 09/06/2012 21:14

If I was the bride or groom, I'd be giving them the contact details of the hotel and asking them to sort it out themselves. I can't imagine the hotel would provide a room free of charge, and I wouldn't be too keen on paying for it myself.

I know she's from Asia, but she could communicate with them by email if she doesn't feel comfortable phoning.

roundtable · 09/06/2012 21:14

My mum and dad had a nap in my bridal suite on my wedding day.

At least I hope it was a nap...! Grin

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ZZZZNaptime · 09/06/2012 21:16

I don't think they want to book a room.

I think they were angling at using the honeymoon suite?

I just don't know why or when or for how long and it seems so odd.

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MsVestibule · 09/06/2012 21:16

Ooh, roundtable - your mum and dad had a "nap" in your bridal suite before you??? That is just wrongity wrong wrong!!!

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ZZZZNaptime · 09/06/2012 21:19

Roundtable - I hope it was a nap too!

They aren't travelling far on the day.

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MsVestibule · 09/06/2012 21:19

Not sure why you've "NC Due to obvious reasons.". What would they be, then . It's not the most controversial AIBU I've ever read.

Ah, I get it - this is a reverse AIBU, isn't it, and you're the lady wanting the nap Wink.

squeakytoy · 09/06/2012 21:20

how old is she?

WhereYouLeftIt · 09/06/2012 21:21

If I were the bride or groom, I would just give the adult in question the contact details for the hotel in order that she could book a room for herself. I might be OK with a small child having a nap in my room, but not an adult. Oh, no.

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ZZZZNaptime · 09/06/2012 21:23

Nope - not a reverse AIBU. I just think this is pretty unusual and don't want any other family members knowing my usual mn name.

She is 37.

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HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer · 09/06/2012 21:25

LOL @ roundtable

MsVestibule · 09/06/2012 21:27

Family members know your MN name??? Not even my DH and best friend know mine! This is the ONLY part of my life that is utterly private apart from hundreds of thousands of internet strangers.

BTW, I was joking about it being a reverse AIBU.

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ZZZZNaptime · 09/06/2012 21:29

:) no they don't but I live in fear!

This is the only place I can slag them all off vent and I'd like to keep it that way :)

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mumeeee · 09/06/2012 21:31

OP YANBU. We stayed at the hotel where DD1 reception and so did some others. Everyone booked their own rooms all the bride and groom did was to let the hotel know how many rooms were needed. This adult should def not use the honeymoon sweet if she wants a nap she should book a room for herself.

OddBoots · 09/06/2012 21:32

It's a little odd to ask, I would just give her the hotel phone number.

Inertia · 09/06/2012 21:35

We did have a room available for guests to use, but it was the hotel's idea, and TBH we set it aside for my DB and SIL to use if my 1yo nephew had needed a nap.

For an independent adult, I'd be forwarding the hotel details on and asking them to contact the hotel themselves. Won't the guest be staying at the hotel anyway?

squeakytoy · 09/06/2012 21:35

could she be pregnant and not want people to know yet? hence knowing she is likely to feel a bit tired

2rebecca · 09/06/2012 21:37

I'd say "not they haven't you'll have to book a room or just leave when you get tired".
It's a silly request though. If they aren't travelling far they can go home.

Greenshadow · 09/06/2012 21:37

My brothers PIL also came from Asia for his wedding and never really got over the jetlag. They were sleeping at odd times during the whole time they were in the UK and didn't seem to want to adjust to GMT.
Having said that, they did manage to last the wedding OK

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ZZZZNaptime · 09/06/2012 21:41

It's only about 15 minutes by car.

squeaky it's highly unlikely although I guess a slim possibility.

I just think the need for the nap is odd really.

No one is staying at the hotel. It's all very local.

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