to think Father's Day is for fathers

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I went to the shop today and got a Father's Day card for next week and it irritated me to see the number of cards 'from the grandchildren'. It isn't grandparents day, the clue is in the name.

If it was just paying the bills, then in some families, the government should be the most important entity in their lives.

I remember the same being said about Mother's Day cards for Grandma's.

We always gave our Grandma and Granddad cards when I was little - it's just a token to say thank you for what you do for us.

My DD's give my dad a card and a little gift, he's a brilliant dad and grandad, why not?

What's the big deal? Just don't buy into it if you don't want to.

YANBU. Father's Day is for Father's. The clue is in the name.
If you want to buy grandparents cards, then that's what Grandparent's Day is for! Shall we just start buying cards for the whole family and their dog on Father's Day?
If so, then it might as well be called 'Buy Whoever you Like a Card Day' which kind of takes away the point of it being Father's Day in the first place!

"As important doesn't mean "does all the same things" "

Nope, but "as important" does mean that two people are of equal importance to a child's life.

The person (or people) who have primary responsibility for the child's welfare are the most important people in that child's life.

That can include a grandfather. But usually it is a parent or parents.

Shit, my kids are very close to my parents, as am I.

But it is DH and I who put a roof over their heads, feed them and do all the day-to-day humdrum caring.

Just like my parents did for me.

Jaysus! save us from Grandparents' Day, that's all the world needs - more poxy cards and guilt trips and unmet expectations and whinging.

"Nope, but "as important" does mean that two people are of equal importance to a child's life."

Like I said earlier, IME grandparents are. Mine were to me, and I expect DS's will be to him. But then I'd also say my aunt has always been as important to me as my parents. Just the way my family works, we are very close.

I value my grandparents as much as my parents, Why does it have to be a who do you love more comp? Its ok for children to show appreciation to people who aren't you.

YABU, god forbid that some people actually love their grandfathers.

Are some parents so bloody insecure that they feel threatened by their childrens grandparents?

some cultures grandparents live with their children and grandchildren and it is not unusual for grandchildren to be handed over to grandparents to raise

i was bought up by my grandparents, my granddad was the best father ever really how could anyone get pissed off with a child that was in my situation (and many are) of not having a father around and wanting to buy their grandfather a card. and sadly this is more common now

of course it is a way to make money but that is all mothers and fathers day has become about anyway but not many of us take a stand we don't because we want to show our appreciation

Extended families anyone?

My children send their grandad (my dad) a card on fathers day and I couldn't give a toss who is irritated by that!

He is a huge influence in their lives and would drop everything to help them out in a crisis.

That deserves recognition IMO and my dad loves getting a card from them.

My grandparents raised me from the age of 12. My grandad always got a fathers day card.

Sorry to contribute to your irritation, OP.

Perhaps think outside the "Everyone lives in a perfect, two parent family" box?

Do we even have Grandparents' day over here? I've never noticed if we do! I think Fathers' Day is a nice opportunity for grandchildren to make something for their granddads.
I really, really hate to think how annoyed some of you might get about really important things, if you can find the time to be irritated about this!

If you don't want to fund the greetings card industry's relentless search for new marketing opportunities, just don't send the wretched card! Simples!

My granddad was far far better to me than my dad was. When he was dying he told me that he always considered myself and my sister like his own children too. I remember calling him Dad by mistake and him laughing and saying he was like my Dad. I always got him or made him a card for Father's day. Who cares who buys who a card?!

YABU. We don't celebrate grandparents day, don't even know when that is.

So mother's day and father's day covers all generations, they are grandMOTHERS and grandFATHERS after all.

I will be buying 7 fathers day cards this year!! Card for DH from DS, card for my father, plus a grandad one from DS, card for FIL and a grandad one from DS and card for stepdad and another grandad card from DS!! If my grandfather was alive, I would be at 9 cards!!

My dad is much more active in dd's life than my ex (his choice) so I get my dad a card off me and one off dd as a token gesture to thank him for being the best male role model in my dd's life!

Isn't there a grandparents day?

Apparently Grandparents Day was introduced in the UK in 1990 by Age Concern. It is on the first Sunday in October.

Thank you Google.

Fathers day should just be abolished - it's crap, and we certainly don't need to add grandparents day!

I get a grandad card for my FIL because it means a lot to him and he wouldn't get a card otherwise - my XP has cut off contact with him for supporting me after we split. I don't see the big deal, if you don't want to get a grandad card then don't, and leave everyone else to decide for themselves

Why should fathers day be abolished? Just because some kids don't have a dad doesn't mean their day should be axed!

Grandfathers are fathers. Dds dad isn't always here. My dad spends a lot of time with her. He'll be getting a card .

Josephine where did anyone say it should be axed cos some kids don't have dads??

Someone said it should be abolished. Why?

This is a completely ridiculous thing that seems to bug people. Not to mention cold hearted to think GPs shouldn't get cards on mothers or fathers day if families wish to give them.

I have never understood why people are so precious about restricting these days.

Because it's pointless - celebrate your father every day, or occasional days, or whenever you want to. If you need to be told to celebrate it on a particular day and waste money on tat, then perhaps you need to look more at the relationship with your father.