Prefer an expensive nursery because is walking distance... unless DH agree to buy a car...

[Norange]

The point is I always, ever, since I was 18 I had a car drive to everywhere I wanted in the city where I come from. Now in LOndon I´m facing a lot of diferences and one of then is the terrible weather with a DD of 2 yrsold. I miss my old life and I hate the idea of submit my DD to the bad weather and buses to go to the nursery.

why does she need to go to nursery at 2

Are you actually serious?

The choice of Nursery is up to you and your DH but one good thing about living here in London is you don't have to drive everywhere.

I haven't driven for over 11yrs and manage perfectly well.

But then again, I was never one for driving everywhere anyway because I think it's odd.

you live in england, it rains, you need to get used to it and your dd wont melt if she gets wet in the rain, invest in some good wet weather clothes for your dd, ie an all in one waterproof, you can get some lovely ones! and get on with it, sorry but weather isnt a reason to stay indoors etc, mine regularly walk or bike to school/pre-school in the rain, you just get on with it!

What Worra said. One of the beauties of London is having a 24 hour bus service plus loads of trains and the tube. It's crazy to go to the expense and hassle of having a car (parking, permits, vandalism and insurance, oh boy, insurance!) when you have all that public transport on your doorstep.

There's nothing wrong with sending your 2yo to nursery ( knowsitall ) but you can do that without a car in London.

Seriously

One of the huge benefits of London is that you don't have to drive everywhere....getting a bus is not "submitting your DD to buses"

It's a bus....not a horse and cart

knowsitall, what is your idea about it? I have only one child, she stays all the time with me, we don´t have friends in London, I´m afraid that is time to socialize her.

WorraLiberty, I understand but where I come from we don´t have options.

I 'submitted' my 2 DS's and 1 of their friends to 4 buses, 4 trains and 2 tubes today...took us all of 40 minutes there and 40 minutes back.

Oh and in the torrential rain and blustery winds

Whats wrong with a bus?

I chose a nursery that was 25 mins away because I preferred it. I thought it would suit ds better than the one 3 mins up the road. It does he is very happy. So what if we have to walk.

T'is life!

WorraLiberty, I understand but where I come from we don´t have options

But you do now?

I thought that was more or less the point of the thread?

MilkNoSugarAndAShotofWhisky :)

Worra, because you think odd driving everywhere, I use to do it because I didn´t have options.

I can deal with rain, walk, bus, tube when I´m alone and in regular conditions but with a 2 yrs child I fell a bad mother and, I jhave to confess... I fell tired really tired ... here is only myself to everythng at home, everything, no staff, no family...

No, I think it's odd driving everywhere if you don't have to...sorry that's what I meant

Why would you feel like a bad mother for not taking the easy option and driving your child everywhere?

Kids need exercise and fresh air and so do adults.

I'm sure you can relax and feel less tired once she starts Nursery.

But really, there's nothing wrong with 'bad' weather...it's just weather after all.

You are not a bad mother taking your child to nursery in the rain/wind/shitty engllish weather, you are just doing what you have to do. like everyone else.

have you tried going to toddler groups with her? You sound lonely :(

I

How can taking a child out for healthy exercise make you a bad mother? Surely it's doing her a favour, not submitting her to something she shouldn't be submitted to?

I ????

"here is only myself to everythng at home, everything, no staff, no family..."

I get that you're tired, I really do, we all get/have got like that many a time. But hey, most of the rest of us had/have no "staff" either and many of us had/have no other family around too. Once you get into a routine and know your journey it just becomes second nature, easy peasy, and you sure as hell aren't a bad mother for taking your child on a bus!

No staff

How i get out of bed in the morning and do my own hair and make-up is beyond me!

Are you from another country, I'm saying this as my relatives live abroad and they have staff for everything, seems to be common place.

No staff?

X post, sorry

If you don't want to commute to nursery I think that is totally fine. I live in London and I chose to take my child to nursery/school within walking distance because it saves me time which is precious.

Some people from different countries call child minders, cleaners, gardeners etc 'staff'.

That's all really...just their way.

My DH worked with a Sri Lankan guy who was absolutely lovely and very humble.

Yet he called their home help 'The servant girl'

Op, whereabouts in London are you...are there any groups you could go to to.socialize

If you don't mind me saying, it sounds like you think you should be sending her to nursery rather then you want to....you don't have to you know :)

You're not a bad mother regardless of what you choose

And not everyone has "staff" :o and I'm the staff btw

I live in a small village and everyone drives everywhere. Getting constantly wet is hard work. I always walk if it isn't raining it just doesn't happen much!

Yeah, some of my family live in Indonesia, and have a person to do everything, & its either 'The staff' or 'The maid'

What's wrong with wearing a hooded coat and boots?

I drive, but since moving to London in 95, I haven't owned a car. The buses are excellent. In my mews in Maida Vale, out of five houses, only one person owns a car and he is a businessman who travels a lot. I have my own carparking space. It is covered in tomato plants! No need for a car, parking permits, over zealous traffic warden and the insurance cost!
My friend has brought up 3 kids in my street. She walks em to nursery and school.