My DM and DSD live on a Greek island. They moved out there about 6yrs ago to retire, not long before we had DD1. Although I love my DM, she is quite an overbearing, dominating personality and I am happy that she is there and I am here - esp since I have become a mother myself, because we tend to clash over our different ideas about child-rearing (i.e. she has taken offence that I don't want to emulate her in every single parenting choice but actually want to do it my own way, which is sometimes like hers and sometimes not)
She loves it out there and cannot fathom why I don't want to move my family out there too. I have told her until I'm blue in the face that it's not the kind of lifestyle I particularly want - I like being in the UK, having a city close by, DD likes her school, plus I am lucky enough to have a job I really love, and the job prospects on the island were never great even before the economic crisis.
Also DH's parents live fairly close to us and are getting on a bit, and they utterly adore DD and it would totally crush them to be apart from her. While my DM loves DD, she is not a child person and makes little effort to play with her. DM likes to drink and smoke a lot and I wouldn't trust her to look after DD (not that she has ever shown much interest in doing so anyway).
But she won't stop going on about us moving to Greece! Today she was sending me 3 texts saying how fantastic it would be - she has all sorts of harebrained ideas for how we could earn a living, which is fine and quite sweet except they are all mad unworkable ideas but she seriously thinks they are realistic prospects (i.e. I should 'write porn' - because she read a thing in the DM once about erotic ebooks selling well on Amazon - and DH should go and work in the local library - he doesn't speak Greek but that's just a side issue apparently!)
I know it's lovely and everything that she just wants us out there with her, but it gets on my nerves that she won't ever listen and can't understand why anybody would think differently from her about this issue. To her it's a paradise but to me it's a bit of a backwater, totally isolated from the world at large, and not to mention sliding dangerously close to total economic meltdown.
I just find it really annoying to have to keep repeating myself and saying, 'oh you are sweet to want me in your paradise' when what I really want to say is that I can't imagine anything worse than being co-opted into her life and having to spend the rest of my days in some taverna listening to boring conversations with her boring 'ex pat' buddies who have mostly left the UK because their dinosaur racist views aren't compatible with the rest of mainstream society?
Go on, tell me I'm being unreasonable to be irritated by this!