DD is my PiLs' fifth grandchild - she has two older half-siblings and two cousins. She hasn't seen a huge amount of them in the year since she was born although we did go on holiday with them for two weeks last summer, and the other four see a lot more of them. She was quite clingy for a period and on a couple of short meetings she cried when held by them, and was obviously a bit scared by my FiL doing a play growl at her. He now jokes all the time about her being 'scared' of them/him and not liking them. We spent the Bank Holiday weekend with them and by the end of the first day she was obviously quite happy in their company but he didn't drop the joke. He's not a man to let a joke go to be honest. I'm worried that she'll be seen as the 'bad' grandchild and this idea that she doesn't like her grandparents won't be dropped. Obviously right now this isn't much of an issue, but I've noticed for example that my FiL isn't spending any time with her, whereas he's a very hands on grandparent with the others. AIBU to worry that this is setting up a difficult relationship?