to cancel going to a friends as her ds has chicken pox and i'm ttc

[whiteandyelloworchid]

my own dc has had cp and i didn't catch it off my own child
so i thinkk ive had it before, but my mum can't remember if i had it as a child or not.

i'm only just on the fertile phase right now, so even if i was pg, i would only be just pg, right now.

wwyd

im looking forward to seeing my friend, but paranoid incase i might be pregnant,or may fibd out im pg in a couple of weeks then i'l worry

how would you pass it to the pregnancy? I thought that didn't happen till the placenta kicks in a few weeks in?

If you didn't get it from your dc then it seems pretty likely that you've had it. You may have had it without symptoms.

I'd go.

Honestly the thought wouldnt even enter my mind. Im pretty sure an embryoblasts cant catch chicken pox.

yes but if i caught it visiting my friend, wouldnt it take 20 days or something to come out in me, by which time i would be 5 weeks pregnant.

yabu. You've probably already had it and you probably won't be pregnant and even if you were it wouldn't make any difference.

Never understood people curtailing their lives on the off chance they might be pregnant. Just get on with it.

Although I can see where some of the comments are coming from, you'd never forgive yourself if you went to this party and did end up catching chicken pox. I personally wouldn't go but then I know I'm a worrier..

YANBU why not just see her after? adults can become seriously ill with it, save yourself the worry and good luck with ttc

I wouldn't go, though not for that reason - I have had conversations with quite a few people now about chicken pox triggering other bouts of illness.

Is this a special visit or just a catch up? Would it really matter if you put it off for a week or two?

I think technically you would be fine, but I still wouldn't go if I were you. You are clearly worried, seeing your friend won't help that, and if you do end up pregnant then you will worry even more. It's not worth the worry.

Chicken pox doesn't last long, just catch up with your friend on the phone and book another date for a couple of weeks.

If you're unsure whether or not you're immune, I wouldn't go, just in case. Sounds like you'll be spending the next month worrying about it if you do go.

Chicken pox can be very serious for unborn babies.

I have just made EXACTLY the same decision.

The thing is, the risk is minute, but the worst case scenario would be lifelong regret. It's frustrating but I think it's the right decision

its not a particularly special visit but if i dont go, we wont get to see each other for probably a couple of months for various reasons.

i think i might regret going if i do go, even though i really really want to.

I agree - yanbu. Im heavily pregnant and was due to see my friend on her own whose son has cp, she herself couldnt have got it from him as she had already had it and so had I, so I couldnt have got it either but according to my midwife we could both still be carriers even though we'd had it already. Also it's much more serious in early pregnancy than it would be for me at this later stage so you're definitely right to postpone.

I wouldn't be too sure you can't catch it again. My dd is just having it for the second time- both times diagnosed by a doctor, and the local pharmacist told dh that there have been several people in saying family members have it for the second time. Seems there might be some kind of mutant strain about.

hang on a mo though, have the scabs on the friend's DS scabbed over? if so its fine for anyone to visit!

You#e not pg so yes yabu!!!

ring the gp for a test

The risks are very small, the result of the risks actually happening would be catastrophic. YANBU to stay away. Later on, when pregnancy is confirmed, you should have a blood test, which will check for immunity.

YANBU - if you think there is a chance you haven't had it, then DONT go regardless of TTCing or not - adults can get seriously ill from the chicken pox.
Besides if you not comfortable, then why go and pretend to be so? Reschedule for another time.

All missing the point. OP is not even pregnant. Even if she gets pregnant, and catches chicken pox (which given that she probably had it and didn't catch it when her own child had it is extremely unlikely)...even if these two unlikely events occur together, the active period of the pox would be long over before there was a placenta and therefore would be ZERO risk to this theoretical zygote.

Yet again posters show no grasp at all of actual risk, preferring unfounded paranoia and panic to the point of preciousness.

Joan, the post right above you is about the risk of illness for adults, not any risk re TTC. I said the same thing earlier. So we're not 'all missing the point'.

then a whole lot of adults should stay away from a whole lot of children if they can't remember what childhood illnesses they had. Is this a business opportunity for adult sized bubble wrap, or should we all just become shut ins?

My DC had it when I was pg with no3 so the hospital gave me a test and I was immune. If I was you I'd be going to your friends because I thought the only danger for the baby was if you had it during the birth.

I would go, I wouldn't worry about it for a moment.

Chickenpox can be serious for an unborn baby if a pregnant woman catches it before 28 weeks, or after 36 weeks.

See NHS advice on chickenpox in pregnancy