...not to run this errand for DH

[FuckedOfftotheFarSideofFuck]

I think I am being a bit unreasonable - just realised my grumpiness with him is probably due to PMS not anything he has done. Ooops.

Anyway, he popped his head 'round the door asking if I had already had lunch or if I'd join him and colleague. I said I had eaten and needed to go to post office so wouldn't join them.

He said "oh, if you're going to the post office, will you buy blah de blah blah as I need them for ebay".
I said "no" 'cause I didn't want to and when he pointed it out it was on the way, I said "no it's not, it's across the road". (true, it is across the road...)

So, am I just pure selfish and lazy or is it ok to just say 'no'.

sounds a bit lazy and twattish if you are near the place anyway...

I don't understand why you couldn't pop over the road? Sounds quite selfish to me, why are you so averse to doing him favours? Does he never do anything for you?

You are being vvv unreasonable. But excused because of PMT.

Lordy - you were a bit mean and should apologise. Surely you both do things for each other especially when its not exactly a big ask.

You are being selfish and lazy. Do you really need to ask?

Why don't you want to be helpful?

PMT excuses everything except axe murder!

You see I wouldn't excuse you because of pmt - I hate it when people use pmt as an excuse. Just encourages men to do the whole 'ooooh time of the month' thing which infuriates me.

But I hope you feel better

That was horrible! He asked you to have lunch with him and you thank him by refusing to do him a small favour?

Dont be surprised when he tells you to bugger off the next time you need a favour!

I think you're being a bit unreasonable too. If Dh was going out and I asked him to pick something up for me, and he said he wouldn't because he would have to cross a road, I would be quite pissed off.

YABU, but I'm always getting DH to run errands for me and via versa.
Living where we do it makes no sense not to send shopping etc. the person who's passing.

Oh and using PMT as an excuse for being rude and selfish just makes a rod for all our backs. Thanks for that.

Yabu

That is purely selfish, but I would hope that you already know that. PMT is not excuse for that.

not an excuse

Ah, 'tis as I thought, I am being selfish.

It's not my usual modus operandi, though, I have a long history of helping out with his ebay stuff and he'll do favours for me too.

I will apologise for being an arse (but I'm still not doing the errand today as I feel grumpy and lazy :P...not even sure I'll make it to the post office now after all!)

Thanks for allowing my PMT to excuse it Sneezecakes!

YABU! That is just selfishness and not PMT.

He asked you to go to a shop across the road not 10 miles away.

oh, and just to reassure all, I won't be using PMT as an excuse to him - I am dead against justifying things using that excuse but it's helpful to recognise it myself as a reason for being grumpy!

We do usually run errands for each other and I am usually happy to go out of my way (yes, even further than across the road) for him as he is for me!

Glad you have seen the error of your ways

It sounded like a good idea to me. I'm all for making life easier for other people as I know it will be reciprocated.

PMT is a bitch. But it isn't a usable excuse.

Agree with bogeyface--using PMT as an excuse for being selfish and unreasonable just works against us all, so please don't do it.

ah, cross posts. that's good then

If you explain then I'm sure that the apology will be accepted (the explanation may help so that DH doesnt think he was in the wrong about something totally unrelated!).

LittleWhiteWolf I completely agree with Bogey and you and never use PMT as an excuse to others in the real world. I realised after he was gone that I was feeling unreasonably grumpy about this and then realised my period is due so at least I know why I was grumpy today!