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AIBU - a leaving children home alone question :-/

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ManateeEquineOhara · 05/06/2012 13:51

We live with another family atm and I had to go to work for a few hours today. They were off work today and said they would look after my DCs aged 7 and 10. Very grateful and they collect them for me once a week on Tuesdays when I work a late which is fab. However I returned home a bit earlier than I thought I would and my friends had gone out and left them alone. DS said that they told him they would be about 3 hours! I wish they had told me and I would have arranged something else.

I am happy for them to be home alone for about an hour, but any more than that and I worry or their safety, and also that they just spend their time watching tv.

They are supposed to have them tomorrow while I work too, and I now feel like arranging some last minute childcare for tomorrow, and arranging something else for the Tuesday evenings (the after school club do an out of hours service). They have always said it is not necessary to do anything like that for the Tuesdays or holiday days when they are home, but I feel a bit like they have been abandoned, perhaps I am being unreasonable and overreacting, but I do think 7 and 10 is quite young to be home alone for 3 hours, and I do wish they had told me. DS also said that they didn't seem to know they were looking after them today, however I must have raised the subject at least 10 times! :-/

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WorraLiberty · 05/06/2012 13:54

YANBU

If they arranged to look after your kids, they should either have taken them along or asked you if they could leave them home for 3 hours.

fedupofnamechanging · 05/06/2012 13:55

I would make alternative child care arrangements. If someone agrees to look after your dc, then that is what they should actually do. They shouldn't imo, have left them unattended without your knowledge or consent.

I also think that 3 hours is too long - I wouldn't have left mine at those ages.

ManateeEquineOhara · 05/06/2012 14:02

My thoughts exactly. They seem to think it is okay to just have someone here (or even not as it seems). They have to DDs aged 12 and 14 who regularly stay home alone, but they didn't at my DC's ages - I think perhaps they are used to having teenagers and forget that you can't leave younger children to get on with it themselves in quite the same way.

They also seem to think I waste my money on childcare sometimes, but this is the exact reason why I would rather pay for child care :(

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ManateeEquineOhara · 05/06/2012 14:02

*two not to

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