AIBU to think standing up for yourself is a life skill?

[EclecticShock]

I see threads here all the time where the op has difficulties getting their opinions across and having people take them seriously. Standing up for yourself is a life skill that many people need surely? How do people learn to do it? Can it be learned or is it your personality?

Me too, hero is another classic :)

In fact, I'm a little bit in love with dave :)

adele, I think I get where you're coming from, I had something similar.

Good question OP.

I am incredibly mild mannered, but since having my dd3 8 months ago who was born severely disabled, I have had to learn to stand up for her and that means being assertive and sometimes, not being as polite as I would like. But if I didn't stand up for her and myself as much as I have, I have no doubt that she wouldn't still be here now.

Completely, my oh even bought me a key ring... Mrs dave grohl :)

cupoftea my ds also has has some challenges and I've had to put aside my personal anxieties and just do what's best him, no matter how difficult. I agree with everyone, life seems to teach you to stand up for yourself. It's a shame that you have to go through these things in order to become stronger. I would nice to learn under less trying circumstances.

:) @ everlong. It's ok, you can have dave if I can have Tom Hardy or Ryan gosling :)

I think everyone is born with it. Life experience either affirms it or crushes it - often within the first few years of life.

But you can get it back - I did.

Everlong

in real life? assertiveness is important, i wish i could learn it. i've had a couple of small successes but nothing to boast about.
on the internet? i stick to being honest and clear, and not caring if people don't like it. there are so many fakers, i don't want to add to that, i just go about being me and let them take it or leave it.
dave grohl. yes.