In asking him to commit to visits?

[CharlieUniformNovemberTango]

I don't want to go into the details but DS has never seen his father.

He is now 3 and his father has asked to see him this summer.

I asked him what his plans were regarding the visits as there is some distance between us so I know it's not going to be easy to make it a regular thing.

Given the fact he had thus far refused all contact and didn't want to hear personal details or see photos I was surprised by this request. I was concerned that it was going to be a one off as a way of satisfying his curiosity tbh.

I simply asked if he wanted to work towards building a relationship or If it is a one off. But this seems to have pissed him off and they are saying I am being unreasonable. Am I?

Grr. Silly phone!

If he cannot explain them to me he is welcome to do it to the court instead.

I don't want it to go that way but I'm not the one who will lose out on control of the situation really. They can argue all their rules with the judge.

How arrogant of the little shit.Has your son to pass an iq/behavioral/personality/cuteness test before the 'father' decides to commit to a relationship?

I admire your patience in the reply you intend to send.If it was me,he would be getting 2 words 'off' and 'fuck' and an invitation to rearrange them at his leisure

was he a married man when you met him?

I totally agree HildaOdgen. My child had to pass a gender test and SHE failed as her dad has sons and takes a great interest in them. Bloody sh*t.
Some men shouldnt get the pleasure of being fathers.

Charlie I agree with you. Regular or nothing, imagine how shit it would be for your DS if you need to explain to him in years to come that yes, actually, he has met his Dad, but wasn't cute/funny/whatever enough for his Dad to stick around!

As a compromise, could you send the Dad some video footage of your choosing? To be honest if you couldn't be bothered I wouldn't blame you, but it might be a stress free way for your son to be seen by his Dad without any pressure on him?

Can his new wife have children do you know? Call me cynical and suspicious, but why else would she want her husband, who has never bothered before, to suddenly initiate contact with another woman's child?

SqueakyToy - no, seperated at the time.

PomBear- he has a child with her so yes she can.

I'm not sure what prompted this. Perhaps guilt? Perhaps just curiosity?

I guess it doesn't really matter why if the intention isn't right.