to expect dh to answer/acknowledge texts?

[maybenow]

i'm not a prolific texter, and dh and i don't phone or email each other through the day but sometimes something happens that is quite exciting or i get news i want to tell him or if i've been travelling from work and i'm really delayed or i go out after work unexpectedly so i text him.

he treats this entirely like 'incoming information' and never sees any reason to reply unless i ask a specific question in the text.

i've mentioned this to him lots of times, and often tell him the news again when he gets home with a 'i don't know if you saw my text?' when he says he did say it i will say 'well you could have acknowledged it', i don't want to HAVe to remember to tell him the information again once i've already texted it.

even if it's just 'my plane is delayed an hour' i'd like him to text back 'that's shit, see you when you get here' rather than just radio silence.

am i unreasonable to want a simple acknowledgement without out having to sign off every text with 'rsvp'?

DH doesn't usually answer chatty texts but he will answer things like "plane is late, check arrival time" or "xray fine, thank god" or stuff that matters.

I think your DH should have at least responded to the "I've got a job!" text, that's just rude to ignore. A quick "well done!" wouldn't have killed him. Is he being a tightwad, or does he have free text messages on his phone?

I refuse to have conversations by text msg - if it goes beyond a simple question and answer (1 or 2 in each direction) then I'd sooner phone the person.

YANBU. My DH is just the same.

YABU

Replying can get ridiculous. You give him information that does not have to be responded to. So he doesn't. Otherwise you can end up with a flurry of, 'thanks', 'you're welcome', 'ok', 'cool', 'see you later' etc which mean nothing. If you want him to respond, tell him so. Or tell him in person and actually talk about it face to face when you get home.

I feel your pain- DH doesn't even acknowledge me in person half the time. I have to ask 'did you hear me?' and then he'll lie and say 'oh, I nodded'. Text messages are ignored 98% of the time too.
YADNBU to expect acknowledgement.