would you go to thorpe park when your ttc, on the 2ww?

[sadbuttryingmummy]

bloody difficut when your ttc, as you can't really get pissed, i do still eat whatever i want though.

but im on the 2ww now and been asked ot go to thorpe park on monday and i cant decide if i should go or not
i will be expectedto go on the big rideds,a s i normally do, and it would raise eyebrows if i didnt

dexter73 Sat 02-Jun-12 20:47:11

If I remember correctly I got pregnant because I was really pissed

Brilliant! I wonder how many of us that applies to? More than a few I'd bet!

as part of me thinks if i am, it will still be a tiny embyro implanting right?
the other hald of me thinks perhaps a jerky ride may make any potential embro not implant properly and that could cause problem

I am no medical expert, but I honestly do not think this is possible. It really cant be.

if i just say can't make that day, i will be told. they will rearrange the date.

I would go.
Took me years to conceive and can't put your life on hold.
Sorry for your loss. You do know that your actions did not impact on your ds's condition.
If you would feel happier, avoid the rides that warn pg women off.
Hope you enjoy

Do you normally love extreme rides? Can you not just go and just go on some of the tamer stuff?

If I went to a theme park with a group of friends and one cried off some of the rides I wouldn't think anything of it.

I don't do spinny rides, another friend will go on anything as long as it doesn't go upside down, a third pretty much only goes on the gentler stuff like river rapids.

My friend (unknowingly) went to Alton Towers with me when she was 4 weeks pregnant. She found out 2 days later! He is now a 19 month babbling bundle of happiness. Do it, it is very unlikely it will affect any potential conception. You won't be able to when your actually pregnant!

but at thorpe park theres not many tame rides, alton towers would be a bit easier, a there are a few tamer rides
i was told my sons problems probably happened before i even knew i was pg, think thats whats making me so worried.

When I must have been about 3 weeks pregnant for the second time we had new carpets fitted and I was moving large heavy bits of furniture on my own before the fitters arrived. I didn't know I was pregnant but had an inkling I was, but didn't feel I could ask someone else to do all the heavy lifting and shifting.

I got a positive test a week or so later.

I found out it was twins about a month later.

Twins are now four.

And your son's problems were due to nothing you caused or could have prevented.

Have been to Thorpe Park today to five 14 year olds and the rides are horrendous challenging for those who don't like heights.

The 14 year old I took for a birthday treat was at least my 6th pg (have two children) and she was born 51 weeks after our second son died shortly after being born at 27 weeks. It was a rollercoaster pg (if you will excuse the pun) and she was conceived on the crest of a huge row when the obstetrician had advised against ttc until tests confirmed there was no underlying infection or other problems after a very difficult and sickly post partum period. It was also the pg when with his permission I had a g&t every day to take the edge off the strain - and the one that reached 41.5 weeks and resulted in a pink screaming baby with an apgar score of 9+.

Live your life and have fun OP - the babies will come when they are meant to come. Without what went before I would not now have dd who is the most adorable being on earth and 50% of the essence of my being.

DS was unplanned and I was doing head stands and all sorts (at yoga, not just for the hell of it! ). I also sent running etc as normal.

Just carry on as normal and try not to think about it

I went on loads of rides at about 4 weeks pregnant upside down and all sorts also drank that night... needless to say he was a surprise baby didn't effect him at all tho he does like the be spun round alot

married in white, i'm so sorry that you lost a son too.
its a truely terrible thing to bury your own child.
how did you get through the following prgancy? have any tips?

i can't help but worry perhaps i didnt do that diy jobs etc when i was pg with my ds, but didn't know would that have made a differnce, and would he have deleveloped properly

What was meant to be was meant to be and you couldn't have changed it whatever you had done. Eventually you will come to terms with it and you will be able to rationalise it and will become part of who you are.

FWIW my mother had more hot baths and bottles of gin than would be seemingly decent and still had a healthy baby.

I had the nicest, kindest and experienced elderly obstetrician with DD (NHS) who listened to my story and took me under his wing. I had about 10 scans, lots of hospital appointments and lots of reassurance. Take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself - most of all learn to forgive yourself - it was not your fault, Until you have your next baby the best chance you can give that next baby is to keep well, eat well, learn to love life again, to grieve and to love yourself. And enjoy all that you do have and embrace the friends who want you to have a good time. Tell them how you feel and let them support you and love you as you deserve to be loved.

Good luck love. It heals in time.

wow married your strength really radiates from your posts.

ive started shutting people out a bit, but reading your post has made me rethink

I'm so sorry you've lost a son sad. I know the rides are a lot tamer, good point. If you really don't want to go, don't. But it will not affect or cause any harm IMO. I hope this is the month for you

sad it isn't strength, it's time and it really does heal. I have 15 years between me and when it happened (and a daughter). It is something you will never fully get over but you will recover and you will learn to come to terms with it. It isn't strenth, it's distance. 15 years ago I was a mess and hid the hurt and didn't let people in. I should have - they wanted to help and they didn't think I was a failure, I did, they just didn't have the words and I wouldn't let them in. If I had, it would have been an easier time.

There are lots of people who can help you. SANDs, the miscarriage association, Tommys but most of all your friends and family who love you but for whom this is beyond their ken and although they don't have the trained counselling words and appropriate pauses, they so clearly have the love to share that you need. It doesn't matter if you go to Thorp Park or not or if you do go, if you end up in the cafe having a good cry in someone's arms.

With love and prayers. SANDs were very, very good, google and get their number.

you posts really inspire me, thanks for taking the time to try and help me.
i have said i'd go to my first sands thing, next week, but im not totally sure i'm going to be able to go,but im going to try.

i have been starting to shut people out, and i'm going to try and take your advice and not do that

how did your dh/dp deal with it all, my dh seems to just try and shut it all out.
if he sees me on sands website or similar and im sad he says are you sure looking at that is doing you any good,makes me feel bad

Exactly the same as yours. He had to learn to deal with it too and was grieving too. We have been together for more than 20 years now and have survived the journey. He felt he couldn't break at the time because he had to be the strong one and couldn't do touchy feely stuff. We grew together - he's still not good at "touchy feely" but we know each other so much better than we did in the early years. Remember too that men don't have the same hormonal influences - they just have the grief and preconceived beliefs about how to handle it together with an inability to do so.