To have put son in his cot so I can have a cry...

[MrsHelsBels74]

Long story, will try & keep it brief...
Am 24 weeks pregnant, very hormonal at the moment & if anyone remembers my epic thread from a while back they will know my husband is rarely here at weekends as he is renovating a house for us. I am very stressed about whether the house will be ready for us to move into as where we are isn't big enough for 2 children.

Am worried as husband promised it would be ready before we got married & we've already celebrated our third anniversary.

Anyway, son is 27 months old & a typical boisterous toddler, bingo everything & I just can't cope at the moment. Have our him in his cot & am sat here in floods of tears having sent an SOS to my husband.

I just feel like the worst mother in the world right now & am wondering if I should even be having another one.

aw love its fine to be upset have a cry and make yourself a we all have wobbles when having our second are we doing the right thing , its hormonal plus you have a lot going on , you are not bad mum why are you a bad mum

Have a and then go ahead and have a good cry.

If you were a bad mother, you wouldn't even be worrying about it, so that's a lot of nonsense.

The age difference between your DS and your second child seems about the same as my two sons.

They are teenagers now but I remember feeling exactly the same way that you do. You have the nesting instinct but this time you are already tired and worn out having to look after your eldest.

My DH worked every weekend and we still had a second bedroom to build when I was 35 weeks pregnant so I remember the feelings of panic.

It will all be okay.

Better that you put him in his cot than leave him somewhere whilst you go for a cry.

Nothing wrong with a good cry (can be rather cleansing) and NO, you are not a bad mother. You are a very GOOD mother.

also even if the house isn't quite finished a baby doesn't really n eed any extra space for a few months so you'll be fine! good luck!

bad mother - no
human - yes, get yourself a nice drink and I hope you feel better after a good cry. Sometimes it good just to have a cry and let it all out

Sounds like you have done the best, most sensible thing to me I know I shouldn't but anyway!

your son is secure, and you are free to have a blub,

'tears are for the soul what soap is for the body'

What MissTapestry said.

I hope you feel better for your cry.

Normal protocol is:

Have a cry
Wash and style hair
Put something nice on
Have nice cup for tea.

Well, it is for me, anyway!

Sounds totally reasonable to me! Toddler safe, having a sob/breather and calling for back up. You seem like a lovely mum who is just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Not surprising given the situation.
PS. Being pregnant means you have permission to be as unreasonable as you like. It is a universal law!

You have done exactly what all the books websites and sage old ladies I have ever met say to do when it gets tough. Well done! Sounds like an odd thing to say but well done for making a rational, sensible, safe choice despite the hormone fog.

Take care of yourself as well as your family. You sound like a wonderful mum.

I agree. You did the right thing. You are allowed to get frustrated, you know. He'll be fine. Neither of you will even remember this a year from now. Or if you do, it'll be with a smile, not anxiety.

Thanks everyone. I do feel a bit better after a cry & cup of tea. I'm just totally exhausted though & the reason I feel like a bad mother is that it's not my son's fault I'm tired & irritable & I shouldn't take it out on him.

I absolutely adore my son so I find it hard to come to terms with the fact that I find him hard work at times. I want to be super mum & enjoy every second with him even though realistically I know that barely anyone does this.

You're being way too hard on yourself

Aw, i just had to post something. I have had those feelings, of panic and dread, then all sorts of things come to the surface.

Have yourself a break (husband can take DS out for the day, for lots of running round) & ask your husband for dates for the house renovation!

Don't be so hard on yourself. Have a and a , calm down and go give your boy a hug.

you're having a hard time. you're doing all you can and sounds like your dh is trying, working on the house at weekends. don't blame yourself for not being able to be superwoman 24/7. glad the cup of tea helped.

I used to be an antenatal class teacher - met so many people renovating a house whilst pregnant - usually very stressful. You did the right thing to make your toddler safe and have a bit of a cry. Mothers are only human you know!