DVD Lending Etiquette AIBU?

[Debeezandbirds]

Used to be close friends with someone and during that time we lent each other DVD's and Games galore. She has a few of my DVD's and I have a few of hers. She lives right next to me. I offered her hers back she said no as she felt bad as she hadn't brought mine with her and didn't take them. She then got herself into a new relationship and vanished from my life. Odd like on fb but that's it. Gone form having tea with my family every night to nothing.

I haven't seen her in a year. Someone commented on my FB about my moving away and she comments. "Can you post my DVD's back then?".

Can I assume she's just being very rude? Can I say "Well you have loads of mine and you never dropped them round/ posted them, so no I'm not paying to post something you're too lazy to pick up?" We're not welcome at her house as her step dad is very controlling, she's 26 and still at home otherwise I would have gone round with them. She asked me not too.

I've accepted my DVD's are gone. AIBU to tell her to get off her lazy arse and come get them or let me come up and drop them off at her door?

Easy. reply to her 'yup - come over any time and we swap what's owing. I believe you have x, y and z'

She'll never be arsed, you don't have to do any more.

Agree with UncomfortableOne completely. No need to be narky or offended, simply offer a straight swap. Then move on with your life.

Shame about the friendship though, but things change. YANBU to feel sad about it, YABU to get so annoyed over DVDs.

Not annoyed over DVDs Aldi. More annoyed that someone with no kids and no job appears out of the blue after 12 months demanding I do something for her when I'm moving house and job with child and pets in tow, when in the past I'd offered her them back regardless of if she gave mine back.

I'v told her when I'm done I will arrange to meet somewhere and we can do a swap but I will not be paying a fortune to post them.

I prob AIBU but today is the day my patience is all for my DS and no one else. I hate moving. I hate DP being away and I miscarried on Thursday. I am feeling a little stabby and precious.

I think a cup of tea is in order......

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage Debeezandbirds that just sucks, so no wonder, with everything else that's going on, you'd feel annoyed at your friend's request. Timing I guess.

Either ignore the request or do as you've done and bat it away for a while.

Good luck with the house move (STRESSSSSS) and hope you feel a little better very soon x