AIBU to ask you to give me some perspective re this?

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Ok. So we are driving up to scotland to stay with family - stepson, wife and kids.

We have stayed with them many times over the years - and they of course have stayed with us. Never an issue.

We are staying with a couple who have two children and also existing twins. The children are 3y and 1.5y.

It is just me, DH and DC age 8y.

So my DH has just got a text from the other husband asking us to bring food for our daughter.

Not for us to bring good for our whole family - just for our daughter!

She is not a fussy eater - and point of fact she IS family FFS.

AIBU to feel really offended by this?

Text back and ask why?

Just reply saying she'll eat whatever you're having.

'We are staying with a couple who have two children and also existing twins. The children are 3y and 1.5y. '

So they have four children? What do you mean by existing twins?

ASk if you need to bring food for all of you? Or just your dd?

They might think that she needs 'kiddy' food, but not sure what and therefore want you to provide it.

Existing. Is a typo. I meant expecting! Damn iPhone!

We always visit with bags full of goodies for the children - this time we have bought them new toys and books and some sweets.

We also brung with us some nice wines to go with dinner etc.

Our dd happily eats with us in the evenings - they know this - and she eats anything ranging from chicken nuggets to curry - they know this also.

It's just odd.

aren't there any shops up there?

The obvious thing to do is actually phone them up and speak to them rather then getting all huffy and offended by a text message.

If she is pregnant with twins, and already has two small children, she is probably knackered. I wonder if they are regretting inviting you to stay. i woulnd't want overnight visitors in those circumstances.

Yes, I agree that's odd. It would perhaps be understandable if they didn't have children and therefore had no idea what they eat or like.

I would go with jkklpu's idea and just reply that DD will have whatever the rest of you are having, and perhaps buffer it by asking if they meant they wanted you to contribute to the food in general.

So what happened? Did they feed you and your DC? Did you talk to them?

We stopped off in the way and dud a big supermarket shop when we arrived i announced that ahe is having the weekend off and I made myself busy in her kitchen ;-)

Sounds like a fabulous solution, OP!

I'm sure they appreciated it. :)

damn fine solution there. well done. skilful.

Come stay at my house please!
Good solution x