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To be sat here crying over Steak gate, and not know why...

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flynn80 · 01/06/2012 20:46

Im sat here in tears, ive had a good day today, 9 months pregnant and managed to get my wallpapering done so very pleased with myself, dp has been fine, on the phone chatting no problems.

he went to his mums on the way home, i was in the shower and when i got out he had sent a text asking had i taken some steak out the freezer, also had a missed call from him, i called him - no reply, so i sent a text back saying yes it had been defrosting all day. 2 mins later he storms through the front door straight to the kitchen, screams from the kitchen when did you take the steak out to defrost, i ignored him as he knows i dont respond to screaming.

he then comes in the room where im sat stomping around, asked me why i hadnt answered, i said i was in the shower, he moans why not take your phone in with you, how many people actually do this, and hop out the shower to answer the phone, seems his mum wanted to cook him something, i told him to go back to his mums then for tea (along with a load of abuse that he was a krank for screaming for no reason). he tells me to go fuck myself.

then he stormed out and cooked himself some noodles, comes back in and eats them and i say are we cooking for ourself now then, thanks for asking if i wanted anything. i then go off in a huff to the chippy for my tea, come back hes had a shower and is now in bed, and im sat here wondering what the hell happened tonight? is he really kicking off cos his steak wasnt defrosted - declined to tell him all he had to do was stick it in the microwave, didnt think he deserved to know.

i know this seems so petty, im under a lot of stress right now, recently lost a family member in the past 2 weeks, worried sick about my dad, plus pregnancy hormones arent helping,i could literally go and stab him right now the way i feel.

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madonnawhore · 01/06/2012 20:47

He's a prick. Sorry.

Is he always like this?

StateofConfusion · 01/06/2012 20:49

I'll help cover it up if you want.

I've just had similar bullshit from my dp, I'm 3mnths pregnant and blubbering away like a twat.

YADNBU

usualsuspect · 01/06/2012 20:49

He sounds like a twat

blinkedandmissedit · 01/06/2012 20:50

Must be catching

DH been the same tonight and is currently in a huff upstairs over a lovefilm DVD envelope!

bunch. of. pricks

Geranium3 · 01/06/2012 20:54

Tell him to grow up and man up instead of mummying up! You want a father for your baby, not a whinging toddler!

HRHBumpingFuglies · 01/06/2012 20:56

Oh dear, sounds like it's probably something else that's set him off, but he shouldn't behave like that! You've been having a hard time, what with your bereavement and your Dad.

Is he normally like that?

Why are you worried about your Dad?

flynn80 · 01/06/2012 20:57

No hes not like this usually so makes it even worse, im really curious to know what hes on about but not tempted enough to give him the satisfaction of speaking to him.

stateofconfusion were currently digging over our garden - perfect hiding place for a body methinks!

blinked a lovefilm envelope Confused - is it something to do with the weather i wonder?

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flynn80 · 01/06/2012 20:59

HRHBumpingFuglies it was my dads partner that has passed away so my dad is going through a really tough time coming to terms of not having her anymore.

really scared for him at the moment, dp knows this so youd think would understand im not able to check on the progress of a defrosting steak every 10 minutes of the day Confused

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FanjoForHerMajesty · 01/06/2012 21:00

Is he stressed about imminent baby arrival? Not an excuse but if he's usually nice it's more forgivable. I'd go and ask him what's up.

AgentZigzag · 01/06/2012 21:03

He's gone to bed??

Is that unusual too?

If it is I'd probably go and ask what's up, because if DH went to bed at 8 it'd have to be something really bad.

Could he not want to tell you because you're so far along at 9 months?

HRHBumpingFuglies · 01/06/2012 21:04

Yes Fanjo, I was wondering the same thing.

Ah, see why you're worried about your Dad, flynn.

What do you think is bugging your DP?

JayelleBee · 01/06/2012 21:05

He's a dick.

What happened to the defrosted steak?

Fourlegged · 01/06/2012 21:06

Yuh mine got in a huff BCs of the heat, then called from the car once the AC was in on the way to his poker game

Guys just have hormonal moments just as us ladies do too!

Hardly enough to call him a prick or a twat

Mine also gets annoyed as I never answer my phone even though I do take it into the shower!!

flynn80 · 01/06/2012 21:07

I honestly dont think its anything major, i think he was pissed off i didnt answer my ohone when he rang, he could of had tea at his mums but asked me this morning to defrost a steak for him so was ringing to see if it had defrosted.

the more i think about it the more i want to go kick him in his nuts for getting so worked up over a bloody steak, hes bought a few bottles of beer to go with it so was probably looking forward to it. still not my problem it wasnt defrosted.

new aibu - Am i being unreasonable to cook said steak and feed it to the cat? the thought of seeing his face tomorrow searching for the steak, ha ha ha ha thats cheered me up no end now Grin

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AgentZigzag · 01/06/2012 21:10

New AIBU - YWBU - but it'd be funny Grin

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 01/06/2012 21:15

Microwaving a steak (to defrost or otherwise) would be wrong.

But other than that, he sounds like an arse of the highest order.

NicNocJnr · 01/06/2012 21:19

YANBU to feed steak to the cat.

Twit...hopefully he'll wake up with a healthy dose of remorse. If he is usually a nice guy.
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time Flynn. I do hope your dad doesn't get overwhelmed with his grief and that you find your lovely, sparkling new baby will help everyone to move on to remembering the good times not mourning them. just lost a nana, not the same but am all teary too. I know it gets better, nut it feels like it shouldn't.
Maybe something to treat yourself and relax after unreasonabletwitgate?

flynn80 · 01/06/2012 21:26

Nicnocjnr im sorry to hear of your loss also, i do hope this baby wil give him something to focus on, its still fairly recent for him so fingers crossed hes going to be ok, as you will be too one day.

id love to indulge in a glass of vodka and lemo, instead ill have to settle for a can of sprite and a mini cornetto Smile

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NicNocJnr · 02/06/2012 20:05

Lol! I assume your cat didn't win you round then?

I hope today has been better and all is sorted out, and that you enjoyed your cornetto Envy

Thank you. Sending my best wishes for you, your dad and family, I hope that things get easier for you soon and you can revel in the joy of your new little one with the best of memories.

theonewiththenoisychild · 03/06/2012 18:07

I would have cooked it for the car Smile but im nasty like that

theonewiththenoisychild · 03/06/2012 18:07

Cat*

aldiwhore · 03/06/2012 18:52

I'd have cooked the steak and eaten the lot, and not washed the dishes, or brushed my teeth afterwards or washed my hands and gone to bed all steaky.

Smile
Coconutty · 03/06/2012 18:54

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RepublicaEuphemia · 03/06/2012 18:56

How are things today?

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