Will try to keep this as short as poss. Basically, I have a 5 month old DS and I have had PND but things are alot better. I still struggle with my confidence as a new mum but CBT is helping. Anyway, FIL came over a couple of nights ago and I was exhausted and starving but had to sit through 600 holiday snaps. I basically lost it as when DS woke up crying and wouldn't resettle he let out an exasperated sigh and said 'oh shut up DS'. I had tried to feed DS but he wasn't interested and when FIL offered to try and settle DS, he tried for 2 minutes before coming out saying 'this baby is hungry'. I explained that I didn't think he was as I had only fed him 45 minutes earlier and had already tried that. He went on, saying he knew babies and that 'this one' was clearly hungry. I then shouted at him saying he was NOT hungry. He then asked if he could have a drink of cooled boiled water, I said he never had this. Anyway, im so angry as he acted like I was clueless and was so patronising. Since then he had text my DH saying he feels sorry for my DH having to put up with me. He referred to my PND as 'this madness that is upon me'. He also left here that night and went straight over to see my parents, claiming I need help and that im obsessed with sticking to guidelines when my baby clearly needs food. He made me so angry, so I emailed him to tell him this. I decided to email as thought it would allow me to get my point across clearly and rationally. If you have read this far, thankyou. Was I BU in sending the email, I was quite arsy in it and told him exactly how he made me feel.