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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be really mega massively fucked off that dd has broken her birthday present

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LaurieFairyCake · 31/05/2012 20:47

it cost £100 and she's 14. She probably failed to look after it or knocked it over or stood on it.

She is of course upset and I haven't said anything apart from 'how disappointing' but I'm really fucked off and I hate wasting money like that

It's not in any way repairable

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LaurieFairyCake · 31/05/2012 20:47

She had it less than 10 days.

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LaVitaBellissima · 31/05/2012 20:48

What was it? I'd be upset too

Debeezandbirds · 31/05/2012 20:49

Scream into a pillow.
No replacement.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 31/05/2012 20:50

Has she said how it got broken?

YANBU if it was neglect on her part

ThreadWatcher · 31/05/2012 20:50

Was it a mobile phone?

Id also scream into a pillow, say "oh well you had better take more care next time" and not replace it.
I would also check that it wasnt broken by bullies at school

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LaurieFairyCake · 31/05/2012 20:52

Musical instrument, snapped entirely in two so she likely stood on it or it fell and snapped (god knows how)

No I'm not replacing it obviously - but I'm just so gutted at the waste of money.

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LaurieFairyCake · 31/05/2012 20:53

It's never been out her bedroom.

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NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 31/05/2012 20:54

YANBU and I think you've done very well to just say what you did.

She's probably feeling upset too so perhaps if you do want to replace it you could come up with a compromise where she earns half the money to pay for it.

I hate wasting money like that too and was really annoyed at myself for breaking something I've only owned for two weeks, and this was after I left it on the floor of a shop five minutes after I bought it and had to run back to find it again.

Debeezandbirds · 31/05/2012 20:54

What type of instrument? Is it a violin?

bumbez · 31/05/2012 20:54

A similar thing happened to my youngest dd she is 7 and tried to play her newish DSI under water because she thought it was water proof!

She will not be getting another one .

WhiteWidow · 31/05/2012 20:55

Aw she probably feels reall upset too, theres nothing worse than breaking something someone's bought you.

You're not being unreasonable though x

SarkyWench · 31/05/2012 20:55

House contents insurance?

Longtalljosie · 31/05/2012 20:56

Is it covered by your household insurance?

Longtalljosie · 31/05/2012 20:56

X-post Sarky!

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LaurieFairyCake · 31/05/2012 20:58

It's not covered as we have a £250 excess.

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BelieveInPink · 31/05/2012 21:02

Did she bring it to you or did you find it?

If she brought it to you and was upset, there's not much you can do or say really. Although I know it smarts and is disappointing.

If you found it and had to ask about it that's different because it shows a lack of respect for the item. Accidents happen but how she'd dealt with it would determine if I went nuclear or not.

Floggingmolly · 31/05/2012 21:04

No, my 11 year old stood on the screen of the iPod touch she'd had for two weeks, simply because she left it in her bedroom floor. It is fairly gutting when they take it all so bloody casually.

BelieveInPink · 31/05/2012 21:06

My daughter was "disappointed" in me once. I left her 3DS (weeks old) in the glovebox of a car we had just traded in...she still hasn't let me forget it.

squeakytoy · 31/05/2012 21:07

if it is a neat break, is it repairable perhaps?

boredandrestless · 31/05/2012 21:08

YANBU and I would NOT be replacing it, not even part of the cost. If she is disappointed and has to go without a replacement she might be more careful and grateful in the future.

ImperialBlether · 31/05/2012 21:10

No, don't replace it. I know it sounds harsh but she really needs to learn to be more careful with expensive items.

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LaurieFairyCake · 31/05/2012 21:12

Definitely not repairable, all jagged all the way along.

Yes, she brought it to me upset but I did get a bit of that teenage guff "I don't know how it happened, have you got a receipt" etc etc

Which prompted me to feel internally quite annoyed as obviously to me you can't return it and she just expects the shop to give her another! I put her straight on that.

But I'm still privately annoyed, I hate breaking stuff! And I hate wasting money.

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Elkieb · 31/05/2012 21:18

My sister once broke a Galileo thermometer as she was opening it, she was 14 at the time and still remembers feeling sad and upset. It happens, maybe I have more sympathy as I'm always breaking stuff, mainly the expensive stuff too

CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 31/05/2012 21:27

DD lost the iPod I bought her last Christmas. Her birthday is a week after Christmas and since it was a big thing it was a joint present. She lost it before her birthday though.

I felt awful because it felt like she would have nothing for her birthday as I'd got her an iTunes card and a case to open on the day which I obviously couldn't give her :(

I didn't replace it as it was a mistake I had repeatedly warned her about. She had it in her pocket and was running up the street with her cousin despitee telling her to only keep it in her bag.

She's been much more careful with her stuff since.

It was hard not to be cross with her and do the 'told you so' thing though :(

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