DS is three tomorrow. When he was born I asked one of my close friends if she would like to be godmother. I have known her a number of years and when she was younger she was often selfish and would think nothing of lying and letting others down. However, in her early twenties she seemed to grow up and we became very close friends.
About six months after DS was born she met a new boyfriend and reverted to her previous self. And of course I get that she was in the first exciting part of a relationship but she started to make plans and then cancel at the last minute if her boyfriend became free, which was annoying as I only get a few child free hours a week and could see another friend if had not made plans with her.
She let me down in a number of ways such as not contacting me or answering my calls when my dad was ill, which she knew from a mutual friend. Yet whenever she split up with her boyfriend, which was frequently, she would expect immediate support and for everyone to be available. She isn't just like this with me. It is with everyone.
Anyway I was really regretting asking her to be godmother but it isn't the sort of thing you can retract is it? On his christening she wrote a note making a number of promises to my DS, mins of which she has kept. She has forgotten his birthday. Again. And never wants to see him. In fact she will only see me if I don't have him with me.
AIBU to be so annoyed? I really wish she'd just said no when I asked her to be gm if she actively didn't ever want to set eyes on my child as it would appear.