to cuddle my DC too much?

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My H has just made my blood boil. At pre-school waiting to go in so I pick up our DS (2.5) and cuddle him for about 5 mins. H turns around and says "Put him down - none of the other mums have picked up their kids". Well - I am fuming. I don't care what other mums do. If I want to cuddle any of my DC I will.

Apparently, what he meant to say is that all our children lack confidence and perhaps this wouldn't be the case if I was less willing to give cuddles when they are feeling shy/apprehensive. AIBU to feel really upset by my H's attitude and AIBU to cuddle my DC when they need reassurance?

I still cuddle my mum and I'm a v confident 36 year old mum myself! It's lovely and I still get that safe feeling even now. Cuddle away!

I love cuddle time :0) Ds at 7 is far too image conscious grown up to cuddle me at school, but as soon as he gets home he is straight in there on the sofa. Dd is 5 and I fear will need to be surgically removed from my side at some point. They are however both very confident kids.

yanbu thats like saying you cant love your children in public although cherish it as he may not want all the hugs as he grows up

I cuddle DS every chance I get, We love cuddles.

I would have taken that opportunity to give DH a huge embarrassing cuddle. :o

Well, on the other hand, I have encountered parents who inadvertently (because they themselves are anxious) give their DCs the impression there is something to be worried about, by making too much fuss at times of separation.

I don't know if that's what you are talking about OP.

In general, cuddles are very important.

my parents are not tactile at all. I am so the other way, cuddles abound in this house. We openly hug amongst our wide social circle. I even join in a group hug with my ex and DS step-mum if DS requests it, because I actually think that being able to share emotion and gain comfort in that way is very important.

DS is nearly seven and likes nothing more than sitting for ages on the sofa just cuddling. I've always given him cuddles whenever he's needed or wanted them and you couldn't find a more confident and outgoing child!

We still cuddle up with ours and they are 9 and 11. DH is just as cuddly as I am. We were both cuddled by our parents and turned out secure, confident and loving. Cuddling is how you make healthy adults.

cuddle and be damned! you'll be the one with the good relationship and the touch-friendly son.

I wish my parents had cuddled me more.

I am a bit insecure.

Don't know if the two are related?

In my family you only got hugs if you were:
a) going on a long journey
b) very small
or
c) being 'forgiven' for 'making' our mother scream and shout abuse while we sat there silently for over an hour.

Funnily enough, I hug people rather awkwardly nowadays.

Keep hugging your son OP :)

OP, a few weeks ago I was lying in bed with one DS snuggling on my left side and the other DS at the other side. We all enjoyed a really long cuddle with them chatting to me about their day.

my DSs are 19 and 22!

Nuff said :)

Our children get more cuddles than anybody in the whole world yes that's a fact and are über-confident little things.
Your husband is talking utter nonsense.

Awk! How lovely Frothy.

22 year old is here again, cuddling up whilst I MN on my iPad. Must say I have the cuddliest DSs of all time!

Nowt wrong with it!

My ds is 6 and too confident for his own good very confident. As we get near the end of term a lot of parents are letting their dc's go into school on their own. Not ds. He is adamant I take him into line so he can get his kiss and cuddle right before going in. We are a very cuddly family. Ds often just requests a random hug. I'm going to cherish and enjoy every one of them.