DH runs the pub quiz in our local. He is an excellent quizzer, and he spends all week thinking up questions, finding pictures and music etc, then on a money gets home from work at 6pm for bathtime, bedtime stories etc and leaves at 7.30 to do the quiz, then comes home drunk at midnight. They pay him £20 plus drinks.
I don't mind this - I see it as his hobby, he is making friends, his dad goes along so they spend time together, etc. Fair enough.
We have talked about the possibility of him finding another local pub to do the same, but I have said that it has to be paid properly, at over minimum wage, and he needs to not get so drunk - one or two drinks is fine, but not enough to have a hangover etc.
So, last night he came home really excited - the boss of this pub is opening another pub as well, in a nearby town, (so the same questions can be used), and wants DH to do the quiz! He loves DH's quiz, and thinks it really adds something to the pub! Plus he will pay more! Brilliant!
...until I find out the details. It takes up to an hour to get to the town by bus, or he can stay on the metro straight from work, which tbh he might as well do. They are offering to pay him a whole £30 PLUS DRINKS. So that would be another night of DH getting drunk, again that he wouldn't be able to miss if the kids were being hard work, I had to work (rare, but could happen), I had an essay to do, we had something we wanted to do, etc, plus 7 hours plus of him being out of the house, for £30.
The DDs don't sleep very well - 2yo DD2 in particular. Last night she took till 9pm to settle and was up again at 6am (we take turns at doing the very early bit, and always sort it so that Tuesdays are my turn)
We're pretty poor, so I would pretty much have to put up and shut up if he was offered work that paid properly (ie over minimum wage), but this is taking the piss, right?
He just says he doesn't mind being paid poorly, as he enjoys it, and thinks I am preventing him from earning money and BU. If I was to work, it is commission only (I do a direct sales type thing that sometimes includes parties, they are rarely in the evening, but it usually pays me about £35 for two hours party plus travel, then of course there is the possibility of recruiting, booking more parties, getting long term customers etc) but he thinks that makes my work less important than his quiz. It is less important than his normal, just over minimum wage, part time job, but it is even possible to see my work as my hobby - it certainly takes up less evenings than his quiz.
AIBU to point blank refuse to "let him" do this new quiz? Obviously I can't lock him in the house, and he would piss and moan about it, but to me, if he is going to see it as a job, he needs to negotiate at least minimum wage for all the work (including prep time) plus costs for all the printing that he does at home.
Or should I just be happy that another £50 a week in total would be coming into the house?