to not want money off my grandfather...

[griffalo2]

for doing jobs for him?
since Nan died last year I've been going to granddads and doing odd jobs for him,housework,changing his bed,making him dinner,washing.Last week i painted his dining room out for him and today i cut his grass,dug garden over and planted a few pots.
Anyway he keeps trying to give me money but i really really don't want it and always refuse.He's nearly 80 and very stubborn.He says he's putting the money 'away' for me because i may need it one day and he would rather give me money than have an outsider come into his home to help him.
i just feel awful for refusing the money but also that he keeps trying to give it to me.
aibu? wwyd?

I would agree to let him put it away. I know he's doing that anyway, but let him know that you know about it and appreciate it and that it will be there to be used by either of you should you need it. I think it will just help him feel better, he obviously want you to have it.

just take it, he doesnt want to feel like a charity case.

I agree, he has his pride. Tell him you are grateful he is putting it away for you and that you will let him know when you need it. You don't have to actually take it.

Id take it, if you think he going to hide cash in the house

What purple says.

I'd let him put it away if it makes him happy. It's about his pride and dignity really. You don't have to actually take it, it could be there for both of you to use.

You sound like a lovely, caring granddaughter.

Take the money. My Nanna does the same thing and gets absolutely mortified and very hurt if you tell her no; she sees it as being nice and looking after her grandkids (think she forgets we're all grown up!) and I feel bad for taking it but she wouldn't offer if she couldn't afford it. I'm sure he knows you're not just looking after him for money, its his way of saying thanks.

Id accept it but open a new savings account that you can put it in and keep separate from the rest of your finances so you know it's from him and can return spend on him if the need arises

He wants to do that because that is what some grandparents and parents do.

And if your granddad is anything like mine was he'll be insulted if you don't accept it

Of course you would never expect any money, it sounds like you are helping him loads , good on you not everyone does that , you sound really nice

Perhaps save some of the money he wants to give you then arrange a limsiousine and take him to his favourite restaurant/fish and chip joint.

yanbu: unless, he has alz or something like that

i defintely don't think he's a charity case.he's very physically able for a 80yr old,its just his home needs a woman's touch (his words) and i couldn't bare see him live in a dirty home.
i suppose i don't want him to think im doing it just for money.
i have thought about saying id rather he put it into ds's savings account?

that would be a nice touch, I didntmean you saw him as a charity case, but the elderly like to feel they are helping out

My Nana gets mortified if she feels we are "looking after her" and so we always have to think of something she has to help us with so we can help her, if that makes sense. Sigh.

take it, keep it in a separate place, and then use it to take him out for a treat occasionally..

What BlueBirdsNest and Squeakytoy said.