to be peeved at the shite my day has turned to

[OhdearNigelosaurus]

Last Friday I booked a day off work today. I had to swap round my shifts and agree to work a late shift I don't usually work a week on Wednesday. Monday is the only full day DD does at nursery, DH was working earlies and then going hot air ballooning this evening. I was planning on doing absolutely nothing all day and just enjoying myself. I work full time + run the house + have a cake business + am preparing to run my rotary club next year so as you can imagine free time is not something that is overflowing in my life.

DD caught hand, foot and mouth from nursery so instead of having my lovely peaceful day I have had a whiny, irritable toddler instead. Because she has been poorly all weekend the house looks like a hovel. And DH has just texted to tell me that (a) his balloon flight has been cancelled so he will be here tonight and (b) he will be finishing work at 3pm so he can "tidy the garden". I hate being here in the house with DH in the day, he is a nightmare, the house is tiny and he just gets in my way whatever I am trying to do.

So, to recap. My lovely day of peace and quiet has turned into looking after a sick child and DH finishing work early. AIBU to want to cry into my coffee ?

YANBU, when dh gets home could he not look after dd for a bit?

YANBU.

Can't DH look after DD when he gets in from work for a few hours?

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Poor you. How about leaving DH in with poorly sick child and going out for a coffee instead. Take the opportunity to meet up with a girl pal!

We tried that on Saturday - she just cried and cried herself into a hysteria wanting me, poor child !

I also forgot to mention - there is an annual leave embargo at work from the beginning of July until the beginning of October so it's the last chance I had for a Monday off. That was kind of important at explaining why I'm so upset !

YA so NBU. DH and I have got D&V here and we are trying to look after our toddler and our baby without being sick on them. We were supposed to go to the beach and specifically didn't go yesterday as we thought it would be quieter today. I am also upset at how our day as turned out so I feel your pain.

I have been asking to take a day off for weeks. Due to other things happening in the office (exams, family bereavements, far too much work) I have had to be the understanding boss and let others go while still getting everything done. I finally got my day on Friday.

On Fridays, DD comes home after school, rather than going to creche until 6pm. There was housework to do. There was food shopping to do. There was looking at staff member's promotion applications and giving feedback to do. The au pair's boyfriend was visiting for the weekend.

So effectively, I slept a little longer than normal, I got to do the work reading to give constructive feedback done outdoors, and then I had to do housework and disappear to do foodshopping so that DD wouldn't hang off me for the afternoon. And then DH disappeared to "do a dive, will be home in 90 minutes" and turned up 4 hours later (no communications possible). So we couldn't even have our BBQ at a reasonable hour (and I didn't even get to enjoy my G&T with worrying).

I had a really really crappy day off, but because it was sunny and I am getting a whole 5 weeks off later in the summer, I am expected to be happy. I am stressed out, and I really wanted a day to laze in MY garden with MY book and a glass of something cold (not necessarily alcoholic) without worrying about anything else. I can't even take another day until my 5 weeks (2 unpaid and more than half the rest from untaken leave from last year) when I will be running after DD most of it and expected to sort the packing etc for the family holidays too.

if only "they" told you about this sort of nonsense before you got a grownup life and got pregnant

Even just before you got a grownup job and couldn't take figaries of "it's sunny, I can't be bothered staying indoors"....