Ok I'll try and keep this brief. ExP and I split up 2 years ago, we have 4 year old DS and 2 year old DD together. I've tried VERY hard for the past 2 years to keep our relationship amicable, and after a rocky start we started getting along and for about a year we've been quite good friends; spend a lot of time together with the DC. His moods can be quite volatile, and there have been times where he's spoken to me like shit, but I've carried on working through it for the sake of the children.
Fastforward to around a month ago, things went wrong for him all at once - he lost his job and fell out with his Dad quite spectacularly. They've always had a strange relationship, exP was living with his Dad and they always argued a lot. He asked me if he could stay at my house for a couple of weeks as his Dad had told him he had to leave. I was quite hesitant in agreeing but he said it would only be a couple of weeks and I didn't want to see him on the streets so I said yes. He's been sleeping in the spare room.
He's been here around 5 weeks now. His behaviour has been pretty terrible..ive recently started seeing a guy, and he's given me no end of grief over it, he calls me names and just generally speaks to me like shit. He gives me very little money and seems to think this is ok. Every time I bring up the fact that he really needs to find somewhere else to go he acts all defensive and says he has nowhere to go etc. He's been out all day and its been great, having my house to myself again. Its obviously causing issues with the guy I've just started seeing too because I can't invite him round to mine on an evening because ex is here! I've text him and told him he needs to be out within a week and I know that when he comes back there will be an argument about it. AIBU to tell him he has to leave even though he says he has nowhere else to go? Sorry if this is long, I have shortened it as much as I could.