Just found out today that my neice, my brother's daughter got married two weeks ago.
He found out from some photos on facebook.
Long story but he and exsil divorced when neice was about 14. Had had 17 yrs of up and down marriage. I never liked her , bit of a cow, always right and always ready to put our family down. My parents went out of their way to accomodate her, when really they should have told her when to butt out!!
Any way after they split, he found someone else and exsil, went out of her way to stop conatct with his son and daughter. Changed phone numbers, blocked his calls, changed son's football team so brother couldn't give him a lift etc etc, even cancelled his wedding!!! but registrar stayed late to carry it out.
In the end my brother gave up, except for sending cards at Birthday and christmas together with what ever money he could afford.
My parents tried to keep in contact but stuff was sent back and when they had money from my Dads will , the cheques were cashed but no Thank you, mum was very upset.
My brother is lovely, absolutely great with my kids, and so easy to talk to. I feel so sad that this has happened. He did meet his son some years ago and gave him his mobile number but hasn't heard anything.
Just think she has poisoned them against him and maybe they are afraid to rock the boat. But he should have known about the wedding and been given a chance to at least acknowledge it as I guess an invite would have been far too awkward.
Feel so sorry for him.
Part of me wants to make contact as I know she is missing the chance to have a relationship with a really lovely Dad. :(