To feel like Im playing God as to weather to give my baby the MMR?

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I need to start by saying this has nothing to do with the 'link to autism' that has been feared.

It has got to do with fucking allergies again so if youre sick to the back teeth of my aibu/wtf am I doing allergy related threads look away now.

Basically, 12 months old baby anaphylactic to milk, eggs and other stuff.

He was fine until his baby set of immunisations, the third lot sent his immune system crazy and all of a sudden developed allergies. I decided this and put ut to the allergy specialist who agreed, but said if it hadnt been that it'd been something else (for example, an illness).

This was recently proved after a particularly nasty virus, he developed an allergy to the actual virus, new food allergies (that he was ok with) and an allergy to the cold (cold wind, cold taps = hives and swelling where it touches, had to leave the park 2-3 weeks back as his face started swelling and he had hives everywhere because the wind was nippy).

Anyway, now we're to the MMR if he gets M, M or R he'll get ill AND send his immune system crazy. If he has the vaccine we risk that too.

So we crompamise by giving it individually, we a nice space so's not to over do his immune system.

I spoke to a private practice this morning and found out the dont do individual Mumps any more.

So I have a choice, give him the MMR and risk him getting even more allergies or just give him measles and rubella, leaving mumps which can be pretty bad for boys/mens fertility AND be risking his immune system going crazy with it.

My allergy specialist just cant tell me, he doesnt know which is often the way with allergies. Which I fucking hate.

Anyway, thats it really, AIBU always put things in perspective for me and Im feeling really lost and down with this at the moment.

OP, I don't think AIBU is the place for this. You really need sound medical advice. I'm not convinced that giving him separate immunisations is less likely to "overload" his immune system than giving a single jab - if his immune system is prone to going haywire, I'd have thought it was as likely to go haywire after one jab against e.g. measles as after one combined jab.

Is there anyone else you can ask about this? There must be people who specialise in this field. Have you looked at any allergy forums on the web?

Hackmum, his first baby jabs were fine his third which were a combination if 3 injections sent his immune system crazy in the first place. Im definitely not risking it again.

Ive done tonnes of research, spent hours reading through medical journals amd contacting countless health professionals and specialists and the answer is always the same - we just dont know. Allergies are an unknown quantity, so much if it can never be explained. Too often we just have to shrug and accept that we can never predict an outcome. Maybe AIBU isnt the right place, but they've helped me a lot and Im glad I made the thread.

Id already tried the allergy board and chat.

bumbleymummy im in the southeast. He wont be going to nursery for a while, possible when hes 3. Thank you.

You see, this is why it's so important for everyone that can to give their DC the MMR, so that we have "herd immunity" which means that the people like the OP's DC who perhaps can't have it, are very unlikely to catch so called childhood diseases, because they just aren't present in the population.

Rant over.

Handmade- you do know that we don't have (and never have had) herd immunity to MMR in the UK don't you? Also worth noting that there are still outbreaks in countries where there is over 95% vaccination coverage. (just saying)