to want to smack him in the head (rant alert)

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have recently had surgery on hand typing this with one finger ... have stitches and surgery involved cutting nerves and tendons. have pain and cant even dress properly or go to loo and rely on dh for alot at the moment.

i have given up asking him to do things cos all i get is a sigh and "in a minute" and an eye roll. i ask him to change our ds if wet/dirty. to open a drink that i bring to him. but he had to bring me to local shop this morning to get fags (i cant drive for 2 weeks and he wont go into shop, long story) and paid 4 euro for a salad mix. he said it was robbery. i said well i cant chop up tomatoes and onion etc. he said i'd do it for ye if you asked. i grunted. he said what now? i said i dont feel like i can ask you without feeling like i'm annoying you ... he said well thats your problem.

i HATE relying on him for basic things. just want to smack him for making me feel like he is doing me a MASSIVE favour for opening medicine, or changin ds or driving me to shop to get HIM fags also.

He's not a nice bloke, is he? Why are you with him?

Does he have any good points? Serious question: if I'd had major surgery that left me semi-incapacitated, DH would be falling over himself to look after me. Even if he were less sympathetic to me, he wouldn't dream of leaving DS in a dirty nappy because he's his other parent and accepts his responsibilities.

Ah the million dollar question Imperial .. cos i love him. guess if i put up i have no right to rant have i.

blimey my husband would be falling over himself to make sure i had everything i needed

dont know why people put up with being treated so badly, men and women

ah no he doesnt leave him he is just oblivious to it as its normally my job and he does do it just with a face on him.

cross posted with down and out, have we got the same husband

I'm intigued what the long story is that means he can't go into a shop?
What if you were housebound or bed bound? You'd starve!

Don't hit him though, you might hurt your hand
sorry , trying feebly to cheer you up

lol gumby ... noted and appreacited

he suffers from depression and anxiety and wont go in but has done when really needed.

I was ill the other week with a viral infection, which really got to me, and was ill for over two weeks as am asthmatic. We have two dd's (2y8mo and 11mo), and my dh was more than useless, and a real grumpy sod when I asked him to do me anything. Rolly eyes the whole lot.
I ripped into him big time, about him never helping me out, and that I should just go home to the UK where I'd get lots of support from various family members and friends, rather than a grumpy unhelpful sod. I'd said I'd take the girls as had nothing to stay for.
Funnily enough, he has never been so helpful :)
I think the rocket up the arse helped!!!

If he suffers from depression and anxiety, you must have been in a position to help him many, many times. Why can't he extend the same courtesy to you?