to not let DD go to her dancing display today?

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DD had temp of 40 last night. Really was not well at all and very restless all through the night with coughing etc. Her temp was still high at 6 am this morning but has come down with Calplol/Nurofen. She also has T1 diabetes and has high sugar levels and ketones (not so bad this morning but still higher than they should be) She has a dancing display this morning, out in the open in a field, with parents watching etc, (kind of a Summer Special thingy) she has been looking forward to it for months. I don't think she should go. DH says I'm being unfair. What do you think? I would love for her to do it but I think dancing outside for an hour (she has 3 routines) would be a really silly thing to let her do today but I don't want to be unfair on her either. I also don't want her spreading her lurgy round to all and sundry IABU?

i would let her go to be honest.
i can't comment on her medical things, but sometimes my d gets bugs that come out of nowhere, and cause fever, and then they just go.

keep her hydrated etc. maybe she could just do one routine?

I doubt I'd be able to get her to agree to one routine She has silly costumes to wear too which will make her roast all the more. Oooo I don't want to ruin her day but I just feel she's not well enough.

I wouldn't let her go. I think it's one of those times when you have to be the mean Mum, as it is in her best interests.

Hope she's feeling better soon.

Let her go.
You can't judge how well she feels. It might take her mind off being poorly too.
I'm sure she'll let you know if she feels too bad to go on.

All you can do is support her and keep her hydrated.

Good luck, hope she gets better soon.

I'd wait and see how her sugar levels are. Could you just keep an extra close eye on her?

A temperature in hot weather is pretty grim.

But if she is feeling well now, then she will resent it if she cannot go at all. Out in the open, she's much less of an infection risk to others (she'd have been more hazardous to classmates in school yesterday).

I'd be inclined to go, but warn her that if she is poorly there, then she'll have to sit out one or more dances.

I'd also let her go but it depends a bit on the age of her - up til about 6 I wouldn't let her choose, after that I'd get her to think about it and have some say.

I'm checking her really regularly just now, her display is at 11 am so I have to make my mind up pretty quickly. I feel if I keep her rested today that she'll make a much quicker recovery if you see what I mean. If she didn't have T1 I would probably let her go but it makes every bloody illness more complicated.

She's just turned 6 Laurie (last week). Gah I'll feel like a shit mum whatever I do!

I hate disappointing the kids but sometimes you have too. Go with your instinct and keep her home.

In your position I know I would say no. Last year DD2 8 at the time was in a ballet show for 5 nights at local theatre. After 4 nights she came home with a terrible headache. Next morning big vomit. I told ballet teacher she would not be there that night. DD2 was perfectly well after being sick but I still wasn't going to chance it.

As long as your watching and she can slip away if she's feeling horrid I'd let her do it.

I'd say no if she was disappearing on a coach for the day.