to think I might be pregnant since DH had a vasectomy (cauterisation) 8 years ago?

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Sadly I think it is far more likely to be perimenopause... but I think I prefer the alternative. I am 37.

Nah! My mum always said to me there's not point trying to plan a baby for a time that's convenient; one day you'll just desperately want a baby and nothing you do to convince yourself it's not the right time or circumstance will work.

I don't know whether she's right, but I do know I got a very sudden urge to have another child that I haven't been able to get rid of even at times where I've wondered whether I should be focusing on other things as priority before we expand the family.

Don't worry about missing my post, I'm the worst for it Someone will address me on a thread and I won't even notice until 4 or 5 pages have filled up, and then suddenly I'll reply at a really inappropriate time when the thread has been completely derailed or gone in a different direction.

It didn't feel wonderful when we found out - our youngest was 7, I'd gone back to work, we had given away or sold all our baby equipment, DH is a much older dad and was thinking about retirement - it really rocked us at the time.
However there was no question that we wouldn't keep her and she is just adorable, but more than a little spoilt by her older siblings

GAh you're only 37! I'm nearly 40 and will be most affronted if peri noodle thingy comes to me before I am at least 45! I had my 2nd easily at 37 so you are not silly.

Well, something's amiss Babylann 'cos I've been setting extra places at the table on and off for the past couple of months... perhaps it's the world's way of telling me there's something in the offing, or perhaps I am just barking mad ( most likely scenario..

I think your Mum is right, whilst I got very upset when DH had his vasectomy the thought of him having it after DC3 was too horrific for me, he had the appointment booked but I just felt I needed one more to complete the family. I have so much sympathy for those who TTC even for one without success, I can't imagine anything more heart breaking.

I hope your wish for DC3 comes true very soon!

80sbabe, I can understand that completely. Our youngest is 9 and very much the baby of the family and although our other DC have proclaimed many times they'd love me to have another, DC4 would feel quite differently I suspect. Workwise it would also be very interesting. I think that half the reason I'm allowing rose-tinted thoughts atm is because I know I'm probably kidding myself, I'll let you know what happens if I actually do turn out to be PG, I suspect the roller coaster of emotions would be quite something!!

THOC... that was what was making me so miserable until I dared to consider the possibility i a failed vasectomy...research hasn't helped, some people say that sore breasts are not a sign of the peri noodle thingy and others say they most definitely are.

I am not old enough am I???

You're not old enough in my book no! You'd be on the early side...when did your Mum have it?

My family tend to have babies into their forties so I am convinced that I'm still safe...but then again...menopause can't be all bad. No periods, a liscence for mood swings and funny hair!

Our youngest was the most enthusiastic of all about having a new baby in the family. The eldest who was 16 at the time was just incredulous that we still did "it" at our age and I was only 36 at the time !
However, DD2's "biggest" brother now loves the days he finishes college early as he can pick his baby sister up from nursery and take her home on the bus or to the park.

My grandmother gave birth to my mother when she was 42 and my mother was apparently still ovulating into her 50s...

Stupid sore boobs..

Ah sorry when I say DD (2) I meant DD aged 2, she's my only child :) But thank you, I hope I am pregnant already soon!

Have you spoken to your husband about it? Maybe if you're feeling this way, you could ask him to consider a reversal?

Sounds like you have a very loving family 80sbabe

Eldest DD has already told me that if it turns out I am pg she does't want to go away to uni but wants to stay local... btw she overheard he conversation between DH and I, I wan;t intending to get her hopes up too

Oh God sorry Babylann .

DH and I have considered and discussed a reversal several times but we figured that having 4 beautiful, healthy dc already it would be kind of tempting fate to try for a 5th, feel like we ought to count our blessings and get on with raising the ones we've got.

Tbh I have moments when raising teenage DDs has made me question my sanity at wanting so many in the first place !

I wish there was a chance I would end up with 4 but I don't think DP will go along with that at all

Ahh I don't think it would be tempting fate :) At least you've spoken about it though, I was hating the idea when you first mentioned crying in the clinic that you'd never agreed to it and that he had done it regardless of your thoughts, if you know what I mean!

And oh no no, don't be sorry, my fault for being confusing

So am I right in thinking that your second will be his first? (Although with my track record tonight I'm worried I have also got that confuzzled ? If so when DC2 arrives on the scene he'll probably be so blown away by that rush of love he'll agree to more... tell him to think of all that practising

Hehe nope! It will also be his second

Oh God really sorry

I think I should go back to very sporadic lurking again as i just can't keep up... there can be no other explanation for it than my menopausal mind.

Warning to other MNers , if you don't post for about 3 years and only lurk occasionally you might end up writing posts like this.

It's fine! Don't worry. It could be nappy brain, yeah

I'm such an enabler

I like to think you're humouring me to be kind... although I probably just need a jolly good talking to... does Xenia still frequent these boards ?

So this morning I woke up with that low ache in my pelvis which always feels like period pain but not quite IYKWIM

Please someone slap ma, I am clearly over thinking this...

It could be neither menopause or pregnancy, could just be dicky hormones! Hope you know one way or the other soon.

If you are stupid so am I. DH had the snip about 6 years ago and I have thought I was expecting on more than one occasion. Also wishful thinking.

When I was pregnant with my first I was 5 days late before I did a test and all week I was convinced I would come on any minute. In future TTC months I would do tests at 5 minutes late .

Justfab... IK exactly WYM... When TTC DD2 we'd been trying for 6 months and the months I actually fell I'd convinced myself that the flight from our recent hol had just messed everything up.

I have no idea how I'm going to have the patience to wait another 12 days to find out I have actually just gone bonkers or whether I am PG

Dozer , I know you are right... Just wishful thinking I think.

Get some cheap pee sticks from Amazon!!!

You can use them stupidly early.

You'd be very, very young for this to be the menopause.

Bump

Any news?

Also curious how you're getting on :)