To think its a bit soon?

[BellaOfTheBalls]

Friend separated from husband of 9 years 14 months ago. They have a 4 year old DD. Around 5 months ago she began seeing somebody new. Her divorced was finalised in March & she has just announced her engagement with the wedding planned for next year.

AIBU to think that this is a little inappropriate?!

Out of the frying pan into the fire...

Soon? Maybe but if she's happy so what?

Inappropriate? Not at all and wonder what's causing your massive overreaction?

I'd say it's probably far too soon.

I don't think I'd describe it as inappropriate though.

I think it's far too soon - classic rebound.

I think if the announcement has been done in a showy manner, to try and upset the ex husband, then that is inappropriate.

Apologies, inappropriate is the wrong word.

I have not said anything to her, nor would I. I just wondered if feeling uncomfortable about the situation was just me or whether others would also feel odd about it.

If she is a good friend then surely you can tell whether it's rebound or not.

Either way it wouldn't hurt to wait a little longer, especially as there are children involved.

I wouldn't like to judge. Only your friend knows if it's the right thing or not. Hopefully it will work out for her.

I think it will probably be too soon for the dd if not her - different if you don't have dcs.

Of course it is too soon, but not your business. She is a grown up.

Depends.. she may have had a miserable 9 years in her marriage... it is nobody business but her own really.

A bit U. I split with my partner of a decade and, unbelievably and quite unlooked-for, met the love of my life a week or two after (no kids with XP). XP and I had been unhappy for...well, about a decade tbh, and I had long accepted the relationship would have to end at some point. DP (soon to be DH) and I moved in together fairly promptly, have a fab DD and a second on the way and it was absolutely the best thing in the whole wide world that we met - I am bloody lucky.

So it depends on lots and lots of things, and unfortunately most of those things you can't know as you're not her. If I read you OP right, she had 9 months between the separation and even meeting her new partner - that's not that quick!