to not want dh to call me a hoarder

[skeggy81]

Dh was channel hopping last night and noticed programme hoarder next door. Commented that was a programme for me.
Whilst accept I do own lots of books etc and have stockpiled toiletries a bit. Also kept most of the children's bits which is just as well as I am pregnant due in July.
I would maintain that we are no different. Dh has a large collects of books too (although has got rid of some), collectable (toy) cars and Lego.
I think I probably should have got him to watch programme as he would than know what a real hoarder is.

So he made a small throwaway comment and you admit you tend to keep things for thw future? Err... Maybe just me but I am not seeing the problem. A horder is anything from a garage used for storage not the car up to floors failing from the weight. Sounds like a joke not a dig unless he has form?

Your treasure is his trash. What is important to you clearly isn't to him hence the dig. Tell him if he doesn't shut up you'll bury him under it.

Unfortunately he does have form. Always moaning about me never getting rid of stuff and threatening to hire a skip.
Even moaned about car seats in the garage. Yes we have 2 car seats in the garage but we are actually going to need them. If I had got rid of them we would have to buy them all over again.
Obviously once new baby comes I will get rid of the baby clothes we don't need and equipment as new baby grows out of them.

Do you have a shopping trolley in the front garden ?

Does he have a point, is that why you are nary because it hit a nerve?

I watched the programme last night - it was so sad, these people stuck in the past by hanging on to a load of crap that just needed to be binned

If that's not you then ignore him!

narky

Last night's was a bit sad.

That lady clinging on to that old duster thing and crying made me feel odd. Same with the younger lady, called in help but then declined any of it!

My DP isists that it's all played up for the cameras.

DH also looked at me when that trailer came on - I just laughed I know I am a terrible hoarder. Terrible.

But I never run out of toilet roll. or Flash or shampoo or tissues or soap or Fairy liquid or washing powder or pasta or toothbrushes or anything else really

No it's not sadly - I know someone who is verging on the brink of being like this - it's very sad.

Only you can tell whether you are a real hoarder. I would just ignore comments.

I reckon that the real difference between people who merely have a lot of stuff and hoarders is that hoarders have long lost sight of the appropriateness of what needs keeping and become worryingly attached to what they do keep. Which is why they can't throw away newspapers, food cartons, or any other of the things that are normally put out for the dustman or taken to the recycling and why it is such a stressful process for them to try and clear their houses. Everything has an inflated and sentimental value.

They also tend to keep an excessive number of single items - so if you had 5 car seats in the garage, OP, I'd be inclined to think you were in danger of hoarding them. Having 2 which are still safe, fit your car and will be used is simply sensible. Provided you have adequate storage for books and thus know what you have and where it is, there's nothing peculiar about having lots of them. Similarly, stockpiling toiletries seems reasonable. Provided that you've not stockpiled enough to last several lifetimes.

But you do seem to be rather over-sensitive to what comes across as a jokey comment from your dh so are you worried in case you do have hoarding tendencies?