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AIBU?

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To have thrown this woman out of my house??

70 replies

Ruudiluca · 23/05/2012 15:00

OK I am fully prepared to be told that I was being very U!

At the weekend we had a small gathering of close family and friends to celebrate my DH's birthday.

One of our friends turned up and had a bit to drink and later phoned a woman (they aren't an item but are sleeping together I think), me and DH have never met this woman but a lot of people at the party have and do not like her.

Our friend did not ask either of us if she could come round and the first I heard of it was me opening the door to a complete stranger. I was a bit shocked but took the more the merrier approach.

Anyway this woman came into my home and proceeded to say hello to all of our friends there and completely blanked me and my dh. There was no thank you for having me or anything.

I tried to engage in conversation with this woman twice during the evening, both when she was sitting with people she knew so she wouldn't feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger. The first time she ignored me, the second time I directed a question at her and she literally turned her face away from me. Talk about a snub But she was quite happy to talk to other people that she had not met before, just not me.

I felt her behavior was extremely rude. The final straw was when the a few guys at the party (who had had a bit to drink) were joking with her. She made a joke about my husband (a friendly one) which my husband laughed at and made a joke back (in no way was it offensive imo). She got really annoyed and stormed out of the room. I was in the door way and she knocked me as she was coming through. I made a comment like "hey!" in shock and she turned around and gave me the filthiest look I have ever seen in my life. It was a look of complete disgust, she looked me up and down.

I saw red and asked her (I didnt shout) to get the hell out of my house and told her that she needed to remove the massive chip on her shoulder before she was ever welcome here again.

She left but it put a massive downer on the rest of the evening, which pissed me off.

WIBU???

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starfishmummy · 23/05/2012 15:24

YANBU!!!

sugarice · 23/05/2012 15:28

Yanbu. Did your other guests who knew of her dislike her because she's a rude ignorant cow who deserved what she got?

WenTheEternallySurprised · 23/05/2012 15:28

She'd have gone sooner if I'd have been the hostess!

MissFaversham · 23/05/2012 15:30

Yep she definitely had to go right out that door Grin

Why do you think your actions ruined the night, sounds like no one really gave a damn.

Good riddance to bad rubbish ay Peggy Grin

fruitysummer · 23/05/2012 15:30

bloody hell, I think you were massively restrained in not dragging her out by her hair

I'd have found it difficult not to slap her too Grin

I actually think your PIL will be secretly delighted that you stood up for what is yours rather than her potenitially ruining their son's birthday gathering.

Plus, if she's not well liked, the rest of the guests will probably slightly Envy that they didn't get to put her in her well deserved place!

TobyLerone · 23/05/2012 15:31

YANBU

nickelbarapasaurus · 23/05/2012 15:35

YANBU -what a horrid woman! behaving like that to you in your own house!

Psammead · 23/05/2012 15:40

YANBU if that's exactly how it happened. Not disbelieving you, OP, but it sounds so weird. Was there any chance of there having been a misunderstanding? Confused

And we need to know the joke Grin

Hullygully · 23/05/2012 15:45

How extraordinary.

You MUST find out why. Immediately.

WhereYouLeftIt · 23/05/2012 15:47

"One of our friends turned up and had a bit to drink and later phoned a woman (they aren't an item but are sleeping together I think), me and DH have never met this woman but a lot of people at the party have and do not like her."
Since neither of you have met her, I just have to wonder what your friend, the drunk one who invited her, has told her about you. I'd be twisting his arm until he yelled for mercy quizzing him closely on why she behaved like that (and frankly, looking for an apology from him too).

Ruudiluca · 23/05/2012 15:49

She made a joke about my husband being dressed like a tennis player. He laughed it off and said something about her looking like a goth (because she was all in black). Not massively offensive imo especially since she started the banter.

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Hullygully · 23/05/2012 15:50

Was your husband all in white? Did he have a racquet?

IAmNotACowbag · 23/05/2012 15:52

Did he sport a tray of strawberries and cream in the other hand?

IAmNotACowbag · 23/05/2012 15:52

Pims?

sugarice · 23/05/2012 15:53

Has your mate shagged seen her since? Has she expressed her outrage at being chucked out for being a bitch?

Psammead · 23/05/2012 15:54

Huh. Seeing as she started the commenting on appearance thing, She really had no right to get huffy.

Maybe she picked up the 'no-body likes me' vibe and felt a bit vulnerable? Or maybe she is just odd.

Tbh, I wouldn't give it any headspace.

Hullygully · 23/05/2012 15:55

Please ask her shagging chum. I'm agog to know.

nickelbarapasaurus · 23/05/2012 15:56

if she's one to get so offended that noone likes her/was talking to her, then the least she could have done is be gracious to the host

TheCunnyFunt · 23/05/2012 15:58

She sounds like she has ishoooos, good on you OP!

Buckingfiatch · 23/05/2012 16:00

YABU. Most definitely. Purely for the fact of not inviting me so I could of watched from the front row with popcorn :o

Silly cow. I wouldn't of been able to fling let her go though without getting a few answers first. It would royally get on my tits nerves not knowing and also would be interrogating asking the friend. Rather odd, and rude, of both of them.

eurochick · 23/05/2012 16:02

You have to ask sh@gging friend what is going on. It's all very odd. And MN needs to know! Wink

Was she offended not to have been asked along in the first place?

Ruudiluca · 23/05/2012 16:06

hullygully to be fair it was just the racquet he was missing Wink is it just my husband that has an obscene dress sense that sometimes makes you want to die??

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Ruudiluca · 23/05/2012 16:09

Well my husband told me that our friend only wants a casual thing between him and said woman because she can get a bit "intense". I think that might mean she is a raving loony maybe?

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Clytaemnestra · 23/05/2012 16:09

You should have said "Game, set and match" as you kicked her out.

Ruudiluca · 23/05/2012 16:11

^HAHA!! That made my day cly Grin

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