to understand why newbies feel unwelcome when there's a certain group of people on here that think mumsnet is all about them?

[truthful]

I really do understand why there is a 'flouncers corner' on this site and I understand why people feel the need to go to it!
Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me! I felt really unwelcome but just thought it was a one off. Ever since then I've begun to realise that its like school on here and theres the 'popular' group who seem to think that everyone should know who they are and so they just hijack everyone elses thread and talk amongst themselves ignoring other people in the process! I was even in a thread yesterday and there was a discussion and one of the popular ones said something along the lines of ' oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?'
To me that was rude and if you know eachother that well then shouldn't you be emailing or private messaging instead of being so rude? I can honestly say I have said something regarding to what the OP was asking and been completely ignored by what send like the usual lot talking about scones or something
Another thing which I hate is all the private jokes flying around which is between the usual lot and no one else. Fanjo??? Grow up!
The only time people seem to get noticed is when they have changed their name to something like one of the popular peoples names! Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so people arent allowed a name like yours are they!

Ooh, hello SPB! Haven't seen you for about 5 minutes a while, How are you?

[grin

Mumsnet is a community, and like every community there will be popular ones, the feisty ones, the expert ones, the stroppy ones, the kind ones, the wallpaper ones who stay on the sidelines - you can't expect anything else. And if you are on MN a lot, and/or have been here for years, then of course you're going to get to know some posters very well.

However, and I'm treading very carefully here, I have seen threads like the ones you've described where the topic is effectively hijacked by a group of friends who then take it over. It makes for very uncomfortable reading and there have been times I've felt that it's been very unfair on the OP. You do have a point here.

But stick around and you'll see that those people are also elsewhere on MN, giving advice and support.

Bitter much?

Relax OP, stick around, put the time in and get to know people, one day someone will probably wave at you on a thread, Mumsnetters are generally lovely, give it time!

Where's Pag? Anyone seen her around?

OP - this is not going to help your case.

Wow we haven't had one of these for a long time, but you wouldn't know that being a newbie and all . Why do people post things like this? If you don't like the site there is the fluff of netmums are plenty of other sites you can go to

I'm always name changing so nobody has any idea if they've 'spoken' to be before anyway. Doesn't bother me TBH.

Ha ha Stranded, i was being 'rude' and taking the mick...

Lovely to see you, and EVERYONE ELSE too (before another thread gets started..)

I don't understand Flouncers corner, just bloody go.

I disagree OP. I am on my third name change. Very few people on here know what my previous username was and people still generally respond to my posts, but only if I have said anything that interests them, which is fair enough.

Where is this 'flouncer's corner?'
I have never flounced and it sounds like fun.

OP - You have a point. I am not well known at all - but I have to say if I say something useful it gets commented on. If not, then it doesn't. I have been in Mumsnet Roundup a couple of times under another name and so everyone has equal opportunity to be recognised and to feel part of the thread.

Truthful please tell us what your thread was about which got derailed, - it honestly may shed some light on what happened and we can explain and say SORRY

Hmmmm. I slightly know what you mean.

However, having a strop/mocking perfectly innocent larking about ain't all that friendly either, is it? Eh? EH?

Deja vu? thought lots of people gave the op sound advice on the last one, bit now as to what she is trying to achieve.

Why am I seeing double?

triple, actually manic.

so good it was posted thrice.

eh?

she's got two threads the same??

dinosaur thread link

OP... like Pennie, I kind of know what you mean... I used to get ignored all the time as a newbie and still am, 3 years later but didn't give up. I was all over MN like a bad rash for a while and demanded attention :) until I realised... MN isn't really about that.
Now I go to a thread if I have something to say that might help, I make my small contribution - even if it is just to sympathise - and that's it. Don't expect thanks or recognition.
I only hope that MNers will do the same for me when I need their advice / hands to hold.
Simples

I'm on a thread that uses Fanjo and it was one that inspired my name change but I'm not part of the "usual lot" who ever they are!

Yes sorry I sent the same thread twice.. Doh!

The thread was ages ago I cant find it now.

You don't have to find it, just TELL US WHAT IT WAS ABOUT