To feel uncomfortable about this?

[BellaOfTheBalls]

This may well out me.

I got married recently. Of course, photos began appearing on Facebook & a male friend from university that I have not seen for years commented on one intimating that I was his "one that got away" and cursing himself for not telling me when he had the chance.

I am flattered, although I have never thought of him that way but AIBU to think this is a really odd comment to make on a photo of someone in a wedding dress who has clearly just married someone else?!

Erm, I think he's probably just being nice actually and probably doesn't mean the bit about you being the one that got away he just means you look nice.

Congrats.

It depends on how he said it really.

If he said it as a compliment (which some people do) then that's one thing but if he said it in a stalkerish way, that's quite another.

The trouble with typing is that you can't see the person's expression behind it.

It won't out you, it happens a lot, and yes, totally creepy, block him!

eastend put it clearer than me with much less waffle

Something along the lines of "you look amazing. I hate being so shy, all those years at Uni and I never told you how I really felt."

Oh. That's a bit of a drip feed. He sounds odd. And sad.

I don't think it's that odd because I think it happens a fair bit.

I do think it's a bit of a combination of desperate, arrogant & cowardly though. Desperate because they've obviously always wanted to let you know how highly the regard you, arrogant because now it is revealed they secretly want you to act on it and cowardly, because if you don't they protect their ego with the fact that you've just married and cannot possibly.

No-one would ever admit this, but I think it's there subconsciously.

Ha ha ha ha ha! My DH's best friend said a very minor version of this (I was the shag that had got away) at our actual wedding in his best man's speech the shame!

Love that desperate, arrogant and cowardly... Fits the bill, spent the last few drunken visits telling him he is just that