This is about my sister. Who, despite what follows, I am very fond of. But I am terrified by what she is proposing.
There are 3 of us - me, my younger sister, and my youngest sister. Youngest sister has always had quite major issues, from when she was a very little girl and physically attacking her classmates. She is very unstable.She is 34.
Basically, she ruins every family occasion we have by either getting drunk and violent and aggressive, or causing huge scenes - weddings, 21st parties, you name it, she's ruined it and embarassed us all by shouting, attacking people (sometimes when sober). She is single and childless and has never had a relationship although has had a few one night stands. She is very jealous of everyone around her and when she's around noone is allowed to mention anyone that is engaged, married or pregnant as she flies off the handle and says she can't handle it.
She is constantly having to move from job to job as she obsesses over things and makes enemies wherever she goes. She has had the sack a few times. She lies constantly but not very well.
She is reliant on my retired parents for money and constantly demands money from them. She terrorises them with phone calls (they live overseas and she lives far from me and my other sister) and verbal abuse on a weekly, sometimes daily basis. She will phone up to 20 times until one of them answers. She is very emotionally abusive to all of us and if she feels upset with someone will harass them with texts, emails and voicemails for days on end, spouting poison.
She is very dirty and unclean and has a very unkempt and unwashed appearance. Her house is filthy and she smells.
She is not very good with children and has limited patience with anyone. She has been to various counsellors and psychologists who have recognised she has some sort of personality disorder and tried to help her but she is on such a destructive spiral.
The point I am making is that she has now declared she has had enough of waiting and is determined to have a baby - apparently 'all she wants is a child'. The thought sends cold panic down my spine, honestly. It would not be the making of her - she is completely incapable of meeting a child's physical and emotional needs. She would not be able to look after a child. She is talking about just going out and getting pregnant by anyone.
Please don't flame me for being a horrible sister. I really care about my sister but would be terrified for any child she brought into the world, especially as we are so far away. But I don't see what I can do to stop her...she seems determined. Honestly, she could not look after a baby - please believe me - I think it would push her over the edge.