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Great, what do I do now?

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teaaddict2012 · 22/05/2012 14:17

my son attends nursery, I have a severe form of morning sickness. today it decided to kick in just before I went to pick up my DS and caused me to be half an hour late, urgh I was so embarrassed just wanted the ground to swallow me up, all I could do was apologize for holding them all up.

Apparently that's not all, a girl from my school who works there (who has form for this sort of behaviour) has told the manager that I was talking to her on fb at the time, I wasn't. and probably had a good bitch about me before I got there. I'm really angry and upset about this,

AIBU to feel really blackened by this??.

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squeakytoy · 22/05/2012 14:26

did you ring them to explain you were going to be late? if so, then why be so angry and upset.. and why was someone who works there on fb, should she have been in work?

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teaaddict2012 · 22/05/2012 14:28

Because I was lied about.

no I didnt I was just like crap better run, I thought time phoning would be time wasted perhaps wrong in retrospect.

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squeakytoy · 22/05/2012 14:31

well you were wrong not to phone, it takes less than a minute to let them know you are running late

regarding the facebook thing, who exactly told you that this girl has said you were on fb at the time?

wonkylegs · 22/05/2012 14:32

It was once, you apologised, it's fine.
ignore the bitch
I've been late a few times due to accidents, snow, stuck in traffic etc (traffic round my work is horrendous) and can't call as I'm in the car. I'm always profusely apologetic but it can't be helped.

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teaaddict2012 · 22/05/2012 14:34

My dp , he had a phone call off manager because of the lateness then apparently was told this.

bearing in mind I'd just had to be helped up the stairs because of how severe my episode had been plus the heat I was so angry.

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teaaddict2012 · 22/05/2012 14:43

I don't think there's any point in saying anything.

I'm just so angry and incensed.

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LentillyFart · 22/05/2012 15:00

What answers were you expecting OP? You ask "What do I do now" in relation to what is, frankly, a rather nothing little situation with a bit of he said, she said thrown in for good measure. You're angry and incensed? Then get in there and have it out with the management of the nursery. Your DP was told that you were late because you were FB'ing when according to you this is absolutely not true yes? You need to clear this up with them.

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teaaddict2012 · 22/05/2012 15:05

I'm worried if I go down that road , I will make myself look worse and open a can of worms if you get me.

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BikingViking · 22/05/2012 15:09

Well the girl won't have proof of you chatting with her fb, if you weren't so at least you Can 'clear your name' there.

If the lateness is a one off, it can't be helped although def take 2 mins to ring if there's a next time and if you Can.

Sorry to hear about the morning sickness - it's not nice (had it with dc2 pretty badly throughout)

FetchezLaVache · 22/05/2012 16:11

I would ring up in high dudgeon, say what your DP told you, tell them that it's not true, that you can furthermore prove that it's not true, and that you are extremely unimpressed at the lack of professionalism and truthfulness of the employee in question. But I'm a bit that way out today.

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teaaddict2012 · 22/05/2012 17:38

hmmm

I may do that but a calm phone call aha, I'm just feeling very uncomfortable atm.
its been great for the nursery and now this has thrown me.

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potoftea · 22/05/2012 18:44

The whole thing about facebook sounds strange so I would ignore that, but given that you were late today, I would first thing tomorrow, go up to the manager and apologise again about today. Explain that the morning sickness came on so suddenly and you didn't even get to phone them.

The fact that you brought it up again will help them believe it I reckon. And you get to be really polite too with double apologies.

PurplePidjin · 22/05/2012 18:58

Wtf was a nursery worker doing with her phone out around the dc? That's gross misconduct everywhere I've worked (which is quite a few places in 7 years plus I'm temping at the moment!)

It's a breach of safeguarding to use a camera phone around vulnerable people when you're in a professional role. Particularly if it's Internet enabled. Plus, no one gets paid to faff on facebook!

thepeoplesprincess · 22/05/2012 19:03

Why are you leaving your kid there anyone when the staff are psycho bitches?;

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teaaddict2012 · 23/05/2012 10:32

well I didnt realise that until yesterday thepeoplesprincess, and its only one like I said hes come on alot the rest are good.

I actually dunno if she was actually working that day. when I saw here there she was there but not in uniform I'm quite confused.

I obviously thought she 'd grown up a bit obvioulsy not.

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