to feel i have let kids down by what i don't do?

[Tunnocksteacakesrock]

Not sure if this is the right place to ask but does anyone else worry about stuff they have'nt done for the kids. Like my DD has recently made a new friend, which is great but a few times she has done the "oh you've never been there/done that" thing and my DD says to me the friend couldn't believe she hadn't done it and she feels "lame". We are older parents if that's got anything to do with it and I am a SAHM by choice so funds dictate some choices like foreign hols.Does anyone else worry about not doing stuff whether through personal choice or financial reasons. It is getting to me at the mo to be honest.

trup=trump

This will always happen (grass is greener...). You'll find that whatever their friends do is what they want. As a family we went to France and Switzerland camping during the summer and I remember once saying why couldn't we go to Cornwall (like my friend X). You may get the 'everyone in my class goes on a plane to holiday' but on investigation it turns out to be one family and the rest are visiting relatives in the UK. You are giving your children great experiences (they just may not appreciate them yet !)
However, the attitude of your DD's friend is not good - you shouldn't sneer at someone for not doing things.

You are right, it is a mistake to compare what others, or what you think others do, with what you do but it's human nature I suppose. Having too much is not a good life lesson we are trying to teach a bit of "appreciate what you have" otherwise they will never be satisfied.

I think DD is at that age where you become embarrassed by your parents/home. Nothing you do will sort this as every child will at some stage think they have a crap family car, funny accent, mother's too pushy, Dad's too loud etc etc and will cringe about it regardless. Then a few years later they seem to accept everyone has embarrassing parents and laugh together about it. Apparently our home was nicknamed Stalag 13 because I was (supposedly) so strict about the jobs my DCs had to do around the house.

Was the friend really sneering or was she just commenting, it could be DD's slant on things.