friend didn't let me know she was pregnant before I got there?

[LadyHarrop]

First of all, I am really happy for her.
But she knows I've been trying for 2.5 years. She should know I find it difficult when others announce pregnacies, because it just rams home the fact that I'm not. I would have really liked her to call before my trip, then I'd have worked through my feeling sorry for myself tears in private, then we could of had a nice evening.
As it was, I drove over (100+ miles), she told me, then straight away started asking questions about how my treatment was going, and I felt trapped. I'm disappointed with myself that I cried about it in front of her -that makes me look selfish. I suppose that's what is bothering me :(

I had exactly this too. TTC for years but I was so greatful that people would tell me they were pregnant before meeting up. I was always happy for my friends but it just highlighted how crap my own body and situation was. The treatments do work often though I'm happy to say. Good luk.

I think this is one of those situations where it is very possible for the pregnant one to get it wrong whilst trying very hard to get it right.

Just try and take away from this that your friend cared about how you feel and you showed her how much this mattered to you. That's what friends are for.

Before reading this thread I would have done the same as your friend with every good intention.