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Original poster

to be pissed off about diamond jubilee celebrations at DD's school

76 replies

tomatoface · 21/05/2012 20:25

sorry if this has been done before but DD came home with a letter saying they are having a tea party, flags, etc etc & they need to wear red, white and blue

AAAAGH

the thought of it brings me out in a rash. What do I do, pretend she's sick? Let her enjoy a party I don't believe in? Send her in but dressed in normal clothes (they don't have a uniform) and risk her being upset for not being dressed like everyone else.

So annoyed that it's been rammed down our throats

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MumPaula · 21/05/2012 20:47

Let her go and enjoy it.
We live in a country where we don't agree with a lot of things, but my kids were always allowed to join in. They say the pledge of allegiance daily hand on heart and facing the flag every morning in class Hmm my went along, yesterday we drove home with 7 year old Dd singing some patriotic song she's learning for the concert, it was like nails on a chalk board. You are more influence than you think, your kids learn from you, be tolerant as best you can.
Actually I'd love to dress Dd in red white and blue and send her to a tea party, more my style.

WellYouPickedHim · 21/05/2012 20:48

jeez what a load of moaners! anyone would think you are in your 70s the way you mither on

just sit in with the curtains closed and corrie on the telly

and dont forget your hobnobs and warm milk luv

Pandemoniaa · 21/05/2012 20:49

Send her in the French revolutionary version of red, white and blue. That way she can be a Republican, will get to enjoy a party and you can cock a snook at the Jubileebollocks.

noblegiraffe · 21/05/2012 20:51

It's a state school, she's the head of state. Of course they will celebrate it.

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tomatoface · 21/05/2012 20:52

I like your style pandemoniaa

prefer Horlicks to warm milk Wink

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mumnotmachine · 21/05/2012 20:53

Without trying to sound thick, although I know I'm going to fail miserably- what is there to "believe" or "not believe in" regarding the Jubilee?

Blu · 21/05/2012 21:01

Mumnotmachine: It is shorthand for 'my belief is that this country should be a republic and I do not wish to celebrate the unelected rule of someone who has come to that position by birth not merit or democratic election', perhaps.

I doubt the OP thinks that the Jubilee celebrations will be fictional or paranormal in some way. Fun though that would be.

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tomatoface · 21/05/2012 21:02

mumnotmachine it's just that I don't believe we should have a royal family so don't want to celebrate 'er majesty's reign in having fun

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noblegiraffe · 21/05/2012 21:04

I believe other countries without monarchies are available if you are that against the idea.

MerylStrop · 21/05/2012 21:08

We have double whammy of the the Olympic torch going through our village (for which we are to collect our children from school at 11, returning them at 1) and a jubilee party (that begins at 1.30, and at which our attendance is requested).

Which would be fine, if somewhat over-patriotic) except it's DH's birthday and we were going to go out for a boozy grown up lunch, and now we have to cancel.

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tomatoface · 21/05/2012 21:08

ooooh noblegiraffe are you telling me to f off out of the country because I don't like queenie?! Shock In fact, it's not that I don't like her, because I don't know her, I just don't like what she stands for

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morethanpotatoprints · 21/05/2012 21:13

I am playing sex pistol music on the day, as loud as I can. However, as dd in school and class looking forward to a party I feel it wrong to not allow her to dress up.
At least these stupid things usually only exist in primary school so it is sometimes wise to bite your tongue.
Personally I think its another day children aren't learning how to read, write and spell properly and another reason imo to consider home schooling.
So many hours lost at school due to stupid unneccesary activities.

mum9989 · 21/05/2012 21:13

This is probably the first time I'm pleased my school doesn't believe in mufti and dressing up - they are having a prty etc. hooray - they will be wearing uniform as usual - hooray - have 3 DC at the school really pleased I am not spending next week sorting out costumes. [party pooper Grin ]

GreenEggsAndNichts · 21/05/2012 21:14

It's about her enjoying herself with her friends. Just send her in a red dress or jeans and a red or white t-shirt, etc... I suspect you won't need to have her in all three colours.

I'm not from this country originally but I'll celebrate if there are events going on. I like a party. :)

Olympia2012 · 21/05/2012 21:17

Well it's about your dd.... And HER beliefs, not yours!!! You can't control her forever... I'm guessing she has her own ideas?

Rosebud05 · 21/05/2012 21:18

Think yourself lucky that it's only one afternoon. A friend of mine's daughter's nursery had union jack bunting up for weeks before the royal wedding last year and it's been out again for the forseeable.

Seriously, I can't stand it all but it's a 'cultural event'. I went to Covent Garden today and couldn't believe the red, white and blue and tea party tosh there was about.

mumnotmachine · 21/05/2012 21:19

Ah right- I understand (I think)

So I'm assuming then that USA is a Republic?
Where the President is elected?

I'm really not very good or knowledgable on these things?
What is Independance Day and Thanksgiving then?
Because they seem big holidays in USA?

mumnotmachine · 21/05/2012 21:22

I'm guessing then I don't "believe" either way
My sons school is having a party which I have no problem him going to
I'm not particularly interested in the Royal Family, they are just "there" if that makes sense
I know they bring a lot of tourism to the country though which has to be agood thing?

MayaAngelCool · 21/05/2012 21:22

I am also sort of a Republican, and I agree with everyone else here. If your DD wants to support the monarchy and have a good knees-up, why should you gainsay her? Demonstrate what a liberal, open-minded person you are and she'll respect you all the more in years to come.

I did scoff at the news story today of an obsessive monarchist fanatic who set up a Jubilee-themed tea shop then kicked out anyone who refused to stand for the national anthem! What a control freak! Grin

mumnotmachine · 21/05/2012 21:23

And whats mufti? Its what my friends little call calls her foof!

Hulababy · 21/05/2012 21:27

There is no way an English (British? Commonwealth?) school is not going to get involved with this, nor the Olympics.

It's a bit of fun for the children. They will make crowns and have a tea party. They will enjoy themselves.

I am sure most children have something in their wardrobe that is either red, white or blue...not like a full of dress up after all.

I can also remember the street parties in the 70s and I remember it with fondness. I was only very young young but it is one of my earliest memories of playing in the street and everyone being there and everyone laughing.

BupcakesandCunting · 21/05/2012 21:29

Wind your neck in :)

DH is a staunch anti-monarchist the great big narner but still harps on about the jubilee of '77, when his nan got tiddly on Babycham and his brother vommed after too much swiss roll or summat. Let her join in! Tis a day to remember.

MayaAngelCool · 21/05/2012 21:37

Babycham and Swiss Roll. Oh, we Brits have always been the gourmet capital of Europe.

Grin
exoticfruits · 21/05/2012 21:46

She will have a lovely time- it is a significant moment in history. We won't see another one.

exoticfruits · 21/05/2012 21:47

Why would you spoil it for a child?

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