To be umming and ahhing over this?

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A friend wants to come down with her DP and spend a day with us on our family holiday. We're close enough that they can make it a day trip but it's our first holiday just as one family unit (me, DH, 2 DSs) and a part of me doesn't want to share.

WWYD? And if you wouldn't share, how would you phrase your "no"?

If you don't want to do it then just say no.

However, for only one day of the holiday then I think it would be quite nice. We had some friends holidaying near us at easter and spent a day together and it was lovely.

You'll probably be glad of some different faces to chat to and the kids will enjoy playing with other kids

Alas, there are no other kids, just my friend and her fiancé. Who I think is a right twit. That may well be the issue. :o thanks for the thoughts.

I would just say that you have lots of things planned for your holiday and are not sure what days you are going to be free.

Op doesn't like the friends fiance though.

Yeah, I'm sure if they come it'll be a nice day. But (and I realise this is a bit whingey), this particular friend is unemployed and always in my house. Unlike DH, who's been working so hard lately he's always at work or in the study.

I think I might have to just be a bit non-committal and see if they take the hint. And then buy her a really nice present to take back... [guilt complex]

Oh yeah, friend's fiancé is also unemployed and comes with her and eats all my custard creams when she visits.

I don't have a problem with being unemployed btw! Just realised how that sounds. It's just that they pop by an awful lot during the 9-5, and I always end up drip feeding them tea and biscuits.

It would be a a big nono for us. family holiday is just that.

If they are generally freeloading your biscuits then I'd say no. You'll end up paying for them.

If you see them practically every day as it is, why on earth would you want them turning up on your holiday as well?

Initially I'd have said something along the lines of "hey, it's only a day and might be nice". But having read the whole thread I can see exactly why you are underwhelmed with the idea of seeing them while you are away. From the sounds of it you need a holiday from them.

You need to say no, if you said yes would you look forward to holiday less?

Remember no is a complete sentence!

Just say that its your first holiday and you want to make the most of time with your DH. Maybe arrange a day trip for another day instead?

Originally I thought a day would be nice, but realising how much you would seem to dread it, I'd just say not this time as it's your first holiday together - maybe another time! (that other time never comes by the way!)

'Sorry, we're just doing stuff with the kids on this one'. Any good?

I love meet-ups on holiday, but only if they've got children our size or near enough so they can entertain each other while we drink wine catch up.

I would say no. We have done actually.

There is no point on wasting half your holiday annoyed that someone who annoys you is imposing themselves on your family holiday.

Just be honest and say that as DH has been so busy, you all want to spend the week together.

Thanks all. Have done exactly as featurewall suggested, and it seems to have gone down ok. Thanks for backing me up on this!! :)

I'm glad to hear it turned out well :-)