to think DH is judging me?

[DoingItForMyself]

He's recently had a mid-life crisis become all obsessive about sports and keeping fit.

Last night while flicking through the TV channels I stopped on a Jamie Oliver prog about obese people in America.

DH commented "he wants to stop eating all the cinnamon buns and Krispy Kremes"

Yesterday I bought Krispy Kremes at the supermarket. Last week I bought cinnamon buns.

His comment was aimed at me wasn't it?

Possibly.

Only way to be sure is to buy some more

Tell him to shut his face and stop being a judgeypants arsehole!

Thanks bogey, will eat the remaining 8 today and pop out to buy some more later

Blimey, that brings passive aggressiveness to a whole new level!

I would've asked him in the arsiest possible manner.

So you think it was definitely aimed at me then Worra?

He will swear blind that it wasn't, so I haven't even discussed how upset I was when he said it, because then I have to feel insulted about what he said AND listen to him defend himself and say I'm reading something into it that wasn't meant, thereby invalidating my feelings about it and pointing out that I'm over-sensitive.

FWIW he wouldn't understand the phrase passive aggressive so I can't even call him up on that!

Well I could be wrong but if he'd said something non specific like "He wants to stop eating all the pies/cakes", then I'd say you were probably being over sensitive.

But it's a bit of a coincidence to actually name "cinnamon buns and Krispy Kremes".

Unless they were specifically what the person was eating maybe?

Perhaps it wasnt deliberate but was on his mind as he has been judging you about them, and thats why he said that instead of "who ate all the pies"!

Perhaps they sprung to mind because they were in the house.

I'd have just said 'yum more for me then'

And confiscated any I found in his possession.

Did he eat the cinammon buns and KK's? If not, Id have said "what do you mean, you didnt eat any of them?" and see what his response was.

If he did eat them, i'd have said "yes, maybe, as they don't seem to fit with this new health kick you are on"

He turned his nose up at the cinnamon buns until there was only one left and he realised he'd almost missed his chance! The KKs he used to enjoy but when he saw these he moaned that they were all the 'posh' ones (no plain rings) and didn't have one.

I made fruit salad for pud and said the DCs could have a donut when they'd eaten the fruit. DH said in a sarcy voice "oooh they look like they're really enjoying that fruit. You know they're only eating it to get a donut." Err yes, that's the point - its called bribery!

That's sarcy as in sarcastic - looks a bit weird written down!

Is the cake buying a recent abberation, out of character for you? That might have been why he noticed it and made a mental note of it.

Otherwise, have you gained weight recently? Or spending money you can ill afford on luxuries? It could be a dig based on so many things, only you know for sure.

Alternatively, is he a controlling git or perhaps a just thoughtless so-and-so?

Just read your latest post, he sounds very childish!

*aberration, not abberation, sorry typing one-handed

I'd say 'C' HFWS!

I've always eaten cakes and crap and I haven't put weight on for about 8 years (have prob lost a few pounds if anything and took up exercise specifically to enable me to keep eating what I like!) I'm no sylph and I know I could do with losing a few pounds, but he knows that insulting me is not the way to make that happen.

If anything he spends more on Graze snack boxes (nuts, fruit, seeds etc) and Innocent veg pots for his work lunch. Not so much now, but certainly over the past year or so, his healthy eating has cost more than my crappy snacking, so I don't think its a financial judgement - definitely a 'worthy self-righteous eating habits' judgement.