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AIBU?

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To go on holiday anyway

26 replies

dribbleface · 18/05/2012 21:15

We were supposed to go on holiday this morning (UK 5 hour drive), delayed as DS1 (4 years) has tonsillitis and we thought 24 hours of antibiotics to get him on his way would be sensible.

DS2 (7 months) had a mild temp tonight but is teething. Happy enough in self, bit grumpy before bed, not drinking much milk but thats not unusual.

So plan is to see what night we have, if rough we will still go away but via walk in centre that opens at 8. If night is ok we'll go early as planned (in the hope they i can both sleep for some of the journey).

Hoilday is important to us, going with my parents. My dad is in end stage heart failure and is getting worse each week. He was extremely poorly a week or so age and we seriously thought that was it Sad. He is stable and as he is palliative (sp?) care only there is no reason he should not go. He adores his grandchildren and wants to spend time with them. He is not concerned about the kids being ill around him (in his words its the least of his worries)

So AIBU to go? I thinking DS1 can still enjoy his time (he's bit better today), DS2 might be fine, if not DH and I can take it in shifts to stay in (and we can access a doctor I would think)

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FayeGovan · 18/05/2012 21:17

do whats right for you and trust your instincts

if you go have a great time

alphabite · 18/05/2012 21:17

It doesn't sound sensible for him to be around poorly children to be honest but I can see why he'd still want to go.

AKMD · 18/05/2012 21:17

Any other time I would cancel the holiday but due to this particular situation I would go and do shifts if necessary.

I am sorry about your dad :(

supernannyisace · 18/05/2012 21:17

I would go.

DS1 - will probably be fine after a day or two of the anti-b. My DS used to get tonsilitis a lot when younger - down to once a year now at 14 - sigh...

How far away from home are you going? If DSs don't improve then you could just go home?

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dribbleface · 18/05/2012 21:19

I know alphabite but its so hard to deny him the chance to see DS's. We have seperate accommodation so will keep DS2 away if poorly. DS1 should be fine by the time they arrive, they come Sunday. Also everybody has had sore throats this week, mum, dad, brother, SIl

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thenightsky · 18/05/2012 21:20

Sorry about your dad Sad

I would go on holiday. Your dad wants to. That is my only reason really, but it seems a good one.

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 18/05/2012 21:21

At that age, they just want mum and daddy when they're ill - where you all are won't matter. Just make doubly sure you pack any favourite blankies/lovies and go. You'll be making some truly precious memories for you all to treasure later on. And give your Dd my very best regards if you would - I have heart disease too :(

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 18/05/2012 21:21

Dad not DD!

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dribbleface · 18/05/2012 21:21

supernannyisace About 5 hours from home, I think DS1 will be right as rain by tomorrow night/sunday morning

AKMD Thank you. I think I block it all out to be honest, except for when i'm on my own.

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dribbleface · 18/05/2012 21:24

PomBearWithanOFRS I will do, he had a massive heart attack at 45, some 16 years ago, was not supposed to survive the night, the week, the year, 5 years, so he has done very well. He only has about 22% of functioning heart muscle and is a walking (well scooting) miracle. I'm sorry you have heart disease too.

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MrsPnut · 18/05/2012 21:25

I'd go, small children can be ill elsewhere as well as they can be at home.
We had dd2 come down with chickenpox on holiday in the south of France and we had to carry on - kept her away from people as much as possible but still were n holiday.

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dribbleface · 18/05/2012 21:28

I hadn't actually planned on pouring my troubles with my dad out quite so much, guess I'm not coping as well as I'd thought!

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Noqontrol · 18/05/2012 21:29

Yes I would go anyway as you might not get the chance again. Im sure there's doctors wherever you are going to be if needed. So sorry about your dad.

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dribbleface · 18/05/2012 21:31

Thanks Noqontrol, thats what we are all thinking but no-one can say directly Sad. Its bloody tough.

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fivegomadindorset · 18/05/2012 21:32

Go, it is what you dad wants, go and have fun and make memories.

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dribbleface · 18/05/2012 21:38

Ok, looks like I'm going then (just as well or DS1 would be having an almighty tantrum in the morning, managed to fobb him off as to why we didn't go today). Finges crossed they are both magically better by Sunday

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LaurieFairyCake · 18/05/2012 21:41

Yes, I would go. Any moments of happiness you will get with your dad enjoying his grandchildren will sustain you in the time ahead.

elvisaintdead · 18/05/2012 21:57

I would go too - hope you have a great time!

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dribbleface · 19/05/2012 10:32

well Ds2 has an ear infection, took him to walk in this morning. so least he's not contagious! Ds1 responded well to antibiotics and seems much much better today. so we're on our way, packed up with Nurofen and calpol! could be a rough journey but it will be worth it.

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ripsishere · 19/05/2012 10:36

Good, I was just going to post that you should go.
Enjoy your holiday.

thebody · 19/05/2012 10:37

Have a wonderful time and it gives all of you happy memories.

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dribbleface · 19/05/2012 10:46

Thank you.

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iwantbrie · 19/05/2012 12:06

You can always register with a local doctor as a temporary patient. Just find a local surgery and if they have any appointments you should be able to fill in a temporary patient form which will be posted to your own gp x

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dribbleface · 19/05/2012 12:47

thanks, i wondered how you'd go about seeing a doctor.

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dribbleface · 25/05/2012 20:51

update- we went, first 2 day's we're terrible, Ds1 was fine day 1 but then really rough for a day. Ds2 had allergic reaction to the antibiotics (which he's had twice before) so needed doctor but after that we had a great time, my dad was as well as he can be and had such a nice time with all his family around him. treasured memories for us all. thanks all for support when i was a bit overwhelmed by the whole thing.

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