Don't know where to start. Met 'F' through DH who was BoyF at the time (he was mates with her BoyF) Got on really well even though she's a bit younger than me.
Great friendship, though she was always a bit erratic and quite bitchy and acted almost like she wanted me to herself, guess I was flattered. She got really jealous when BF 'Z' from childhood was around and did stuff like slag her off behind my back and even asked me for Z's mob number the day after my wedding (on the pretence it was for a chat but I'd heard it was because Z who was my briedesmaid, snogged a bloke at my wedding that F liked - even though she had a BoyF) Sorry - stay with me :)
Anyway, turns out she had cracked onto above bloke (one of her BoyFs and my DH's mates) just before I got married and was having a bit of a text affair. She told me all about this properly when I got back from Honeymoon and you've guessed it the shit hit the fan, BoyF found out.
She called me saying he'd hit her one eve and asked if she could stay at mine (later found out he hadn't, he'd pushed her out of the way-not justifying, just stating what actually happened) She asked if she could come and stay with me and DH said No, as would have affected friendship with mate.
Anyway 2-3 months down the line she was bombarding me with texts and calls at all time of the day and night, her and BoyF eventually got back together but was shaky to say the least. The mate who was involved with F is saying it was all pretty much made up and nothing happened and I kind of believe him, even felt sorry for arse of a BoyF, she made him look like a total idiot. I also feel like she contributed in a way to a bad bout of depression I got in Sept that year as I'd just got back after my wedding and she bombarded and drained me for months, it was a bit stalkerish. She would turn up at my house like she was checking I was doing what I said I was and stuff like that.
So sorry about the length of this but fast forward 3 years. I see her at occassional social events like weddings now and we text every now and then. Every time I see her, the last 2 times, both at weddings, she apologises profusely about not being in touch and blames the BoyF, saying he's horrible to her and she's unhappy, she then cries and seems to know how to get to me. (One of these crying bouts was at my Bro in laws wedding and I missed some of the reception) She then blames BoyF for not seeing me and promises it will be better this time - she then does the same again at the next event.
In our texts I always suggest days and time to meet up and she either says she's busy or we arrange and she cancels, with feeble excuses.
When I told friends I was pregnant, I didn't have to tell any of my friends met through DH as knew they'd hear, got loads of texts/calls about it, nothing from her. She randomly texted me 2 months later and thought I should tell her and she just sent an unethusiastic text back (not expecting fanfare but maybe 'great, shall we meet?' or something) Since then nothing asking how I'm getting on, not expecting world to revolve around me but she does text me anyway, so why not ask?
Her texts alway say things like 'me and BoyF are working on our relationship, and hope we can be happy soon' or 'Me and BoyF are staying in with a curry tonight, I know he loves me' I'm not kidding, they actually say stuff like that ALL THE TIME - what can you even say to that?
So she sent one like this the other day (and this is prob the 100th in the past 3 years) so I just sent a chatty email and also put 'maybe you and BoyF would be better off/happier apart in the end' - they are currently on a break anyway. She sent me 2 annoyed texts in quick succession on the lines of 'no we wouldn't be better off apart as love each other, so there' kind of thing. I ignored them, wtf would I say anyway? She then texted last night saying sorry she 'sounded off' blah blah. Also ignored this one.
Feel like I've had as much as I can take from her - AIBU or is she a bit crazy. I get so angry when she does this (maybe I'm a bit crazy or just a mug!)
There is LOADS more to it than this (like she also bombarded other friends and sis in laws with these odd texts and sudden frienships, some of whom didn't know her that well and she would turn up at their houses etc) but I'm getting as long as War and Peace already!