AIBU to think Feck is not a bad word.

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Said ahh Feck it at work today and got cats bum mouth from one of my colleagues.

To me Feck is not a bad word, my Ma says it for Feck sake. . .

AIBU, is it a bad word??

Ok: feck, oh dear, blimey, cods wallop
Bad: cunt, fuck ( with southern accent) twat
Medium: fuck (with norther accent) shit, bollocks

HTH

feck is completely different to fuck.

saying feck just sounds plain wrong if you are not irish.

There is an Irish song, that my bf godson used to sing, called the feckal song. Not sure if it's that, or feck all. It was something like 'feck this, feck that' Was very [shocked] when I heard him singing it when he was only 4, but bf had to explain to me.

It's the focal song Longdistance. Focal means "word" in Irish but it was used in the song because it sounded like fuck

it is.

:o @ Longdistance

I think I know the song you're talking about: my dad taught it to my daughter when she was little. It's not called the feckal song and it doesn't have any swearing in it. It's called (Any Other Word) and is a silly song about learning Irish. Focal = Word

There's a sequel to it called (dictionary)

He also did a proper

I watched River's Edge last night and Dennis Hopper plays a character called Feck in it.
I couldn't help but think of Father Jack..

Hee hee to tomuchfuckingperspective

it does not mean fuck in ireland, you don't use it in the same contexts, you'ld never say "I fancy a good old fashioned feck" - that just doesn't make sense

it's only interchangable with fuck in the "feck it" "fecking" etc context, not in the sex context that fuck can be used in

its the focal song BTW not feck

To my (Irish) ears, feck is in the same category as crap. If my 11 year old said either, I'd raise an eyebrow but wouldn't be arsed having a discussion about it. It's not so harmless that I'd say it in front of my children in school but would say it at home if something annoyed me. It's SO not the same as fuck. AT ALL.

To all the other Irish shifters, what about wearing? Look at yer man, he's wearing the face off yer one (circa 1984)

Or, look at yer man, he's bet into her?

It's all coming back to me now...

It wasn't so much the slang words for me when I moved over it was that everyone seemed to talk so fast. . . I was always running alongside saying sorry what what?

And no one knew what a press was or delph, and not a bit of fecking white pudding to be had. .

And no one could make a decent cup of tea.

On the subject of food & drink. . .
Anyone remember West Coast Cooler? Do they still make it?

i remember first going to a pub in england and ordering a glass of heineken. the girl behind the bar asked me whether i wanted a pint or a half pint.......so i said a glass.......and she asked again - very slowly - whether i wanted a pint glass or a half pint glass. i was confused about that for ages.

also remember ordering a vodka and thinking they had forgotton to pour the vodka in - i eventually spotted it hiding under the ice at the bottom of the glass. never got used to teensy english measures.

It's not a swear word. It's luvverlly.

My arse is very rude

I think it's one of those words that means different things in different parts of the country (and Ireland of course). There are others, such as bugger.

Used in Yorkshire to describe a child being slightly naughty, but I doubt a southern mother would use it to describe her own child.

How illuminating!

Stunned that anyone would think plonker is rude, it's like pillock.
nary a twitch would pass my brow at plonker but someone would get a particularly stern look for gobshite. The little fecker.

Arse is not rude in this family - even my Nana said 'You silly arse'.
I would go for little bugger over gobshite actually...weird.
If someone was really naughty there would be a 'the little bugger slapped the cat up the arse' or whatever but I don't think I would/have ever called them gobshites.
On one occasion that is shrouded in the mists of time there was even a 'that little fucker, when I find that little bastard he'll have stripes that'll never fade' from the kitchen so that to me is like the worst level of everything ever!

None of my kids will be allowed to get away with saying cunt while they live here once they move out I judge them old enough to use it responsibily.

There are certain privilidges with shit, twat, bollocks etc depending on age and seriousness. Although I tried to get them to see why hitting someone should not be referred to as twatting (I still imagine a vagina being used as a weapon). But twat is definitely a level 2 swear here.
DD once called her Da a git which imo is much worse than fecker and plonker.

We're obviously just dreadfully uncouth.

buggar is the worst swear word there is where I come from, much worse than fuck or even cunt, because it means buggary. I've found that buggar is considered very mild in the UK - almost a swear substitute!

my uk ILs call children "little devils" if they're being cheeky monkeys
my Irish family say "the divil is in him" if DS is being a monkey
In some parts of the UK that is an absolutely shockingly unacceptable thing to say about a child

Plonker = penis, its not THAT rude, but it is as rude as saying "you penis!"

"Feck it" and "that feckin' [thing]" are basically considered equivalent to "damn it" and "that damned [thing]" at home.

I'm 8 years living in England now and this thread has just made me horrified to think that all my friends here think I'm far more foul-mouthed than I ever intended to be... "fuck" in a different accent? Jesus, no! Perish the thought!

Also, I can corroborate that "to feck" is commonly used for to throw or steal something... My granny used to say of a particularly untrustworthy person that they would "feck the milk out of yer tea!"

Feck the milk out of yer tea! I love that!

I have been quite surprised at my sadness to hear that bugger and bastard are so bad in some places - just I think because of the societal reasons they are viewed with such horror. Buggary surely is only so bad if there is a certain level of homophobia, it really shouldn't be worse than any other sex based swear.

I don't know about twat though, I think people would be surprised to hear it was as bad as cunt. It's all you've got left if you need a more ''polite'' way to make clear somone was being a cunt!

Plonker - so long since it's been used in reference to penis it's not viewed in the same way.

I would say I'd make a note but considering I would be mighty peeved to her any of them being said on a visit to anywhere, not just Ireland, I'm not sure what difference it would make. But, I will take Maryz as law!