for wanting to be acknowledged?

[themaltbycrew]

Im feeling very low at the moment so please be gentle.
Over the past month my sister has been planning a huge wedding, My work is going through a huge re-adjustment (management), and my longest friend has been having a difficult pregnancy.

Ive been trying to be there for everyone, friends, family, and collegues, while keeping calm. But now im begining to doubt myself.
My sister has totally pushed my daughter out of the wedding, she is a bridesmaid but wont have any of the stuff that goes with that.. Ill be dressing her, doing her hair, and getting her to the church myself (No limo or pamper sessions with the other bridesmaids). She wont give me the tiara till we arrive as she thinks ill break it (Ive never broken anything before).

My friend has accused me of f*ing her off as I wont wait out in the cold for her to be late for school. I ask her daily how she is feeling, she NEVER asks how I am. If I dont make plans with her she thinks im ignoring her (she never makes plans with me).

Now Ive let both of these things go as they are quite stressed. but lately Its gettign me down. My friend had her baby,(who was possibly poorly and was induced early), she didnt tell me she was born, I had to find out online, and she wouldnt answer my calls, now she wont let me visit. i dont know how the baby is. I know she will turn this round as I wasnt there at the worst time in her life..... what do I do?

I do have other friends, but they live far away, and we dont see each other much. my hubby is great but all he does is tell me how awful they both are and all I want to do is help.

I just wish someone, anyone would compliment me on something. i think im going mad. im doubting myself. I think maybe ive changed as people always used to say how nice I was. including my friend.

Your husband is right - they are both behaving appallingly. If your sister is generally okay, then it's possible she's entered bridezilla mode and will come out the other side. Do what Euphemia said and make the day fun for your dd.

I would disengage with her, if she is being a cow - her wedding, her problem. Just show up on the day and enjoy it as a guest, but take on none of the stress.

As for your 'friend' - she isn't your friend and couldn't make it more clear if she tried. Time to let that one go and stop chasing her.

You probably have changed from being a doormat, and that's why people in your life are getting pissy. It's not a bad thing to lose people like that from your life.

Thanx for your replies and I think I know this deep down. I cant get rid of my sister (stupid damn blood ties lol). But ive known the friend for 25yrs... since we were children. we grew up together and now are children are in the same class at school and really really close (she has a girl I have a boy). Cutting her out just isnt going to be an option. I just wish I knew a way to stop her making me feel so bad. We have had a huge chat and Ive told her my probelms (on my starting).. her reply was how would I know you dont talk to me. She doesnt ask! and why would I blurt out my problems to someone who had her own issues. If she had asked i would have told her! All she had to say is , and how are you.......