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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to let him have a tiny bit of dyed hair?

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 18/05/2012 19:18

DS1 is nearly three (his birthday is the 1st of July, so quite nearly!). He really wants some pink in his hair.. I currently have deep pink and blue hair, so it's easy to see where he gets his inspiration from! The dyes I use on my hair (my friend comes and colours it for me every six-ish weeks) are semi-permanent, funky colours.. so if he had a little bit of pink in his hair - just a tiny streak, not all over! - it would wash out within a few weeks. And it wouldn't be anywhere near his scalp so no chance of it getting on his skin and causing irritation, I hope. AIBU to consider letting him have it dyed, just to see if he actually likes it once it's done? He doesn't currently attend pre-school/nursery so it seems like the ideal time as he won't have to worry about being told off at school!

I'm just interested in opinions on this really. Obviously I don't see having dyed hair as a big deal.. it's coloured more than it's natural usually! But I'd be intrigued to see what others think about it..?

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Lovetats · 18/05/2012 19:21

He's a bit young. Why not let him have some of that temporary spray hair colour stuff instead?

ThatGhastlyWoman · 18/05/2012 19:21

As long as it isn't toxic/is done safely, where's the harm?

rustygusset · 18/05/2012 19:23

I wouldn't dye a child's hair, I wouldnt even dye my own!

If you really want to do it use some spray on stuff for a day or something but not actual dye.

I can see this being a very long thread though!

pictish · 18/05/2012 19:25

I think it's harmless enough, but be prepared for plenty of people coming on here to question exactly what sort of a mother you think you are.

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 18/05/2012 19:25

What's the difference between spraying colour on his hair (and head) and dying a bit of his hair though? It's still colour in his hair..

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Noqontrol · 18/05/2012 19:31

I can't see the harm in it as long as its not toxic.

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 18/05/2012 19:42

I don't really see the harm. I've had crazy hair for years...it does raise eyebrows when I'm pushing the buggy but I couldn't care less. I did once have someone say "You need to grow up and start acting like a mother!"

My Mum dyed my hair in the summer holidays once when I was 13 (I'm blonde anyway and it was dyed bright pink). We were going to a festival and I BEGGED her. It was still pink when I went back to school (not through lack of trying to get it out).

I went to quite a strict grammar school as well...but my pink hair made me a legend

ScarletLadyOfTheNight01 · 18/05/2012 19:43

If you're using things like Directions etc they are vegetable based and non toxic, so should be fine.

bussfucket · 18/05/2012 19:47

My first instinct was to say why not give him a squirt of that spray on colour you can get for Halloween etc, I see others have gone for it too. That way he can have lots of different colours and change them around to suit how he feels!

ohdarcy · 18/05/2012 19:47

On girlsgonechild.net just the other day she mentioned a colour bug or something - perfect for kids hair and washes out at the end of the day. I wouldn't think twice, have painted ds' fingernails at his request before.

balotelli · 18/05/2012 19:48

go for it.
I only wish I had enough hair to go pink!!

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 18/05/2012 19:59

ohdarcy Those Colour Bugs look great, thanks for that tip!

balotelli DS1 has lovely long hair, almost down to his shoulders now. It's beautiful, and he's very proud of it. I guess I just think it's his hair so it's his choice.. I get why some people are saying they wouldn't do it though.

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rustygusset · 18/05/2012 20:01

The spray sits on his hair, it doesn't change it for weeks.

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RagamuffinAndFidget · 18/05/2012 20:03

But the spray stuff is usually very chemical based and ends up all over the scalp most of the time. The dyes I use are pretty kind and gentle, and will be kept seperate from his scalp. Also, what if he then decides he wants pink in his hair all the time and wants me to spray it every day?

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 18/05/2012 20:12

I always tell my DCs they can have it done in the summer holidays and if it hasn't faded enough we will have to dye over it with mousy brown to go back to school. I use the one brand that doesn't irritate my incredibly sensitive scabby eczema-y scalp and they can have whatever colour they want in that range of dyes.
If your DS isn't even at school yet, have at it it's not like you're tattooing him, and he's a boy so if all else fails he can have a skinhead

INeverFinishAnythi · 18/05/2012 20:14

You can dye a bit of hair by rubbing pink (or whatever other colour you like) eyeshadow into it, like you'd rub dry shampoo in. Then just wash straight out. No chemicals, no lasting damage. Think that's your best option for a bit of colour. I've painted DSs nails before when he's seen me doing mine and asked, but I'd draw the line at dyeing his hair tbh.

dementedma · 18/05/2012 20:22

think he'll look bloody stupid tbh.

Hopandaskip · 18/05/2012 20:26

I don't see a problem with it if you don't get it on his scalp.

What about chalking though?

ohdarcy · 18/05/2012 21:08

I wouldn't worry what other people think. I would never pierce my sons' ears but other people do yet would never let their sons paint their nails. You sound like you encourage personal freedom of expression via appearance so should feel free to encourage your son to do the same

My ds1 is a very individual dresser and i wouldn't dream of stopping him for fear of disapproving looks, far more important that he has fun and develops his own taste imho.

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