To expect dh to put the lid down on the toilet after he's used it??

[Loonybun]

Ok its petty but its annoying me.

Every time dh uses the toilet he leaves the lid up - not just the seat but the lid as well and its really pissing me off (excuse the pun). I think its germy and not very nice and it doesn't keep the bathroom smelling clean.

I admit I am a little ocd about the housework / cleanliness etc.

I've mentioned it and he just says its his toilet too and it doesn't matter - he thinks as dd aged 9 sometimes leaves the lid up but seat down then its fine for him to do it too (dd doing it annoys me too).
Its getting ridiculous to the point that when I know he's been I make excuses to sneak upstairs and close the lid after him... !!!

Am I being unreasonable??

God yeah, chill out.

Well, I like the lid closed too.
These days tho' I would settle for the toilet being flushed by someone other than me at least sometimes.
And for DH to LIFT the seat before pissing all over it...

You are being a bit UR, but to be honest if your DH knows how much it annoys you, why doesn't he put the lid down? Surely it's no big deal to him and it would be kind. If I was doing something that irritated my DH and he pointed it out, I'd try to stop doing it. Why wouldn't I? I love him and I don't want to be irritating. Your DH says it doesn't matter, fine, then put the seat/lid down, because it does matter to you! He's being a bit mean actually.

I think if this is the biggest issue in your marriage you must be two very happy people overall. Be careful of turning this into a genuine big issue though, from tiny acorns grow mighty oaks. Just leave it. Walk away. YABU.

YANBU but they NEVER put the lid down. I'm the only woman in the house and the 4 males here expect it left up and consider me unreasonable as I'm outnumbered.

Does he flush with the lid open?
Tell him he's splattering piddle/poo all over his toothbrush! Might encourage disgust him into closing the lid

I'm the same as you OP.

Unfortunately it's met by "Mum, what do you do that for, every time I run in there busting for a pee I nearly do it on the lid"

My dh doesn't even bother to flush let alone put loo seat or lid down. A very bas habit i have got used to all these years

Hmmm ok maybe iabu then??

We are happy - its just this driving me nuts!! (Yes too much time on my hands - on maternity leave, ds due in 4 weeks - he'll probably pee all over the place too....)

I've never really got used to sharing a bathroom to be honest... I was a single mum with dd for years and before that lived with mum and she's as clean freak as I am ... I keep thinking I can smell "man pee" but maybe I'm imagining it (that's how much it bothers me!)

I couldn't cope with someone who didn't flush or peed all over the place ... I'd have a nervous breakdown I'm sure!! :)

This is a light hearted thread by the way but it does wind me up!

It wouldn't be a big deal for me but I'd be fed up he couldn't be bothered to do something that annoyed me and wouldn't take him a minute.

I have trained everyone to put the lid down before they flush. It has one for a reason!
Maybe 'accidentally' knock something valuable of his down the loo then you can say "Oh dear, that would never have happened with the lid down!"

Grounds for divorce surely.

YABU, why don't you leave it up so it's ready for when he needs to use it?

YANBU!!

I suggest you both sit down together to watch an episode of South Park called Reverse Cowgirl (and no - it's not that reverse cowgirl! )

Yabu. It's only Verny if you have a dirty loo. And if you put the seat and lid down the germs are still there.

:)

Thanks .. You've made me smile. Maybe I am just grouchy pregnant woman. :)

I do like the idea of "losing" something of his down it... (Eyes up surroundings looking for ideas....)

Ultimately I may just lock the door and control access to the toilet depending on the lid being put down. ... (Obviously I jest).

I hate the idea of my toothbrush being covered in poop from the loo... Might start taking my toothbrush to bed with me.

YABU but I agree with wineandroses - there are things that wind up your partner (as long as it's just one or two things) and it's nice to remember, so it wouldn't hurt for your DH to make the effort. DH has a thing about anything being even slightly ajar. We all have our little foibles.

You could get those covers for your toothbrush in the pound shop?

Oh, mobile down loo is a good idea, it is such a pain to replace

not that I know that from the time I dropped my own iPhone down the loo sure I wouldn't be that silly thank god I had phone insurance that covered it

LEAVE THE BARSTARD

I agree-it is disgusting. Without the lid down, all those droplets of water containing pee and poo everywhere

Informing my DH of this did the trick as he is obsessive about hand washing, so the thought of his toothbrush potentially being tainted was enough to make him close the lid like a good boy :o