dp has history for having a lot of hobbies and going out a lot.
im a sahm to our 2 dcs (4 and 1).
sun he went to the last match of the football season so was out 1 till 6ish.
mon night he went out and worked (voluntarily for a small sum) so he got home from work at 4.30 went back back out 6 till 10.
tues he booked dentist straight after work 4.30 then wandered round shop after got home at 6.
wed he had a hobby meeting, booked afternoon off work and went 3 till 10pm.
so basically i had spent all days with dd2 then most evenings doing dinner/bath/bed for dcs then been alone.
thurs i asked him about the evening and he said a friend had asked him to go and help out for charity so he had said yes and was going out 6 till 10.30ish.
i went ape shit, told him he was selfish, had been out all week, i had no time to myself and he should have said no and thought about seeing kids and me.
he said he shouldnt have to give up hobbies/turn down friends/charity work and that i was out of order and i can go out next week as he isnt going out (i can guarantee he will go out at least to the gym or golf or both next week), so basically he wants me to go out next week and we will never have family time.
i swore at him i was so angry and he says i spoke to him terribly and he would never speak to me like that and i was wrong and want to deny him hobbies.
i am still so angry i havent spoken to him and cant be arsed. i dont feel like he gives a shit about me being stuck in all the time and he takes it forgranted i will always look after kids at short notice.
im going to find a regular hobby and tell him i will be out that night every week, preferably at dinner time.
aibu to still be angry or did i lose all rights by swearing at him?