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To feel disappointed that DS does not want to go to school prom

52 replies

Mummywheel · 17/05/2012 18:33

Since before Christmas DS has said that he did not want to go to his school prom. I had hoped he would change his mind as time grew nearer but still he has said he is not interested Sad I feel disappointed and worry he is missing out. He has a good selection of friends and can't think of any reason why he doesn't want to go. Have any other parents have experienced anything similar?

OP posts:
upahill · 17/05/2012 19:25

DS and his mates have been planning their prom night since year 10.
Only 6 weeks to go now!!

(Then I won't have to hear about it again!!)

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Mummywheel · 17/05/2012 19:31

What a good idea LineRunner :)

OP posts:
TheCrackFox · 17/05/2012 19:35

He sounds very sensible.

LineRunner · 17/05/2012 19:36

My best Alternative Prom Night would actually be an afternoon of paintballing or similar followed by an evening round at someone-with-lenient-parents-house house for pizza, laughs and horror films like Prom Night and Carrie! Grin

Grannylipstick · 17/05/2012 19:53

I have a distinct dislike of all these "proms". Parents are being forced to pay ridiculous amounts of money just so their precious off spring can be indulged. As a mother of 5 children ranging from 30 down to 14 I have seen it all. Started with end of term discos in year 7 for the 30 year old to limos and fire engines for the 14 year old. That was just leaving school. So when the proms come up our little prince and princesses want ball gowns and dinner suits. It's totally out of hand. My children were not indulged in any of this rubbish. It seems a case of what can we do next to out do the everyone else. Helicopter landing in the school field? My children understood that going to "proms cost parents alot of money. Often money they can't afford. They were happy knowing that they weren't part Of this mentality. By the way I could afford to indulge them but chose not to

ilovesooty · 17/05/2012 19:56

The very notion of school proms is vile. Sensible lad.

JesusWept · 17/05/2012 19:58

OP - DS1 is in Yr10 but a couple of months ago he came home and said his form tutor had asked them to come up with ideas of where they might like to go for next years prom. I asked about their ideas and DS replied "dunno... I am not going so I don't really care". He is still adamant that he will not go.

LineRunner · 17/05/2012 20:00

I think there are a lot of teens who (a) just don't want to go, and/or (b) don't like the thought of their parents spending money on this stuff.

The ones who really want to go, will go.

Personally I'd be happy to give my DD fifty quid for saving me the crap of shelling out hundreds for an evening she would barely enjoy or remember.

SwedishEdith · 17/05/2012 20:02

I'd be delighted if my eldest announced she wasn't going. I am dreading the whole hideous rip-offness of it.

Sparklingbrook · 17/05/2012 20:33

But we are all missing out on the stretch limos. Sad Grin

upahill · 17/05/2012 20:59

I wish there was Proms when I was finishing school.
I would have loved it!!

Nobhead · 17/05/2012 21:26

I am dreading this in the future, it does seem to be getting out of hand. We had a leavers do when I left school in 1996- I got a red wet look long dress that cost 50 quid that I thought I looked shit hot in. We got the coach there that the school put on for us. It does seem to be an excuse to indulge your kids these days by spending hundreds of pounds on outfits and ridiculous methods of transport- it's like a mini big fat gypsy wedding. It's just people trying to outdo each other.
AIBU to not want to have daughter (this shit costs 10 times more girls what with dresses, shoes, hair, tiara, accessories and all the other crap that goes with it)?

mumblesmum · 17/05/2012 21:27

I was over the moon when ds didn't go. The idea of spending £60 on a ticket for a party at school made me feel a bit queasy.

mumblechum1 · 17/05/2012 21:31

DS went to his last year and didn't enjoy it, said it was v boring. Mind you he doesn't really hang out socially with the people in school, says it's like going out with your work colleagues all the time.

he hangs out with ppl from a couple of other schools, though.

mumblechum1 · 17/05/2012 21:32

mumblesmum, we have almost the same name!

JesusWept · 17/05/2012 21:38

Shock mumblechum - I actually thought you had done two different posts Shock

LineRunner · 17/05/2012 21:39

God yes, I thought you were talking to yourself.

LineRunner · 17/05/2012 21:40

(selves)

mumblechum1 · 17/05/2012 21:41

mumblesmum, any chance of a namechange? Pretty please, only I got here i 2006 when it were all fields round 'ere Wink

adamschic · 17/05/2012 21:43

My DD has never been a party person but did go to her last prom and will go to the next one in a couple of months. 3 course meal £35, no limo's just a lift off a parent. Both dresses have cost £50 but look just as lovely as any over the top ones. She paid for the tickets and me the dresses.

Her school don't have disco's and the proms have been memorable milestones. Most of the year go, but obviously it's optional. Maybe his friends will persuade him to go but you cannot force it.

2shoes · 17/05/2012 21:44

my ds didn't go to his.
he hasn't been scared by it

mumblesmum · 17/05/2012 21:51

I didn't copy, honest....Grin
Can't we be chums in the land of Mumble?

exoticfruits · 17/05/2012 21:58

Just leave it up to him, I can quite see why he doesn't want to go. Use the money for something else.

Adversecamber · 17/05/2012 22:01

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mumblechum1 · 17/05/2012 22:04

mumblesmum OK then Smile. It's just that I run a business advertised on Mumsnet (will writing) and it may get a bit confusing!

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